A woman made a pass at DH - Need help writing a text

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I want to send a beautifully written text to the woman who touched and proposed a BJ to my DH last night. I want to say wtaf, stay away from any social gatherings we will be at and leave the WhatsApp group.

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Can’t believe the number of people telling the OP not to get involved. Her friend has propositioned her husband. The OP has just as much right to be annoyed and angry.

If I were you, OP, I’d make sure to @ her in the WhatsApp group chat and let everyone else in the chat know how much of a sad, desperate cow she is.

Your husband has handled it. Continuing with texting is going to make you look rattled and be a rag to a bull if she’s that way inclined. Centering yourself in the drama makes you look very insecure. Why would she need to be warned off if there’s no chance her offer will be taken up?

If you try to out her to the group there’s a very good chance she’ll claim she rebuffed your DH’s advances and he gets a rep as a creep.

Some of the ‘what I’d do’ posts on here are insane - if people really behave like that in real life, drunk women propositioning husbands is the least of the concerns.

Whatever you decide to write, put it on the WhatsApp group for everyone else in the group to find out what she did.

Completely agree.

Why are you sending a text? Are you a teenager or are you just scared of confrontation. He's dealt with it. If you feel he hasn't then what you do is call her and tell her what you think or you go over and to speak face to face on your thoughts on the matter. If you've only heard one side of the story from him it may be banter so get your facts straight to. If you trust him maybe just let him deal with it 🙄

"I have to send this text to you, my happiness depends on you and whatever you decide to do. I can easily understand how you could easily take my man, but you don't know what he means to me. And you could have your choice of men but I could never love again. He's the only one for me, Sharon"

In a general post mortem group chat about the social night out, I'd laughingly state. "Lol 'friend' was so pissed she offered my DH a BJ, I here she has form for this, happily DH put her straight". For all to see, no point in just a pm to her, open ridicule works better. Then if she already has a DP or DH, they could address it with her - and make her life as awkward as she deserves.

Oh op. That’s just as sad. No need to come in fighting for your bloke. If he said no, it’s done.

You can't ban her from social events you attend - only the ones you host.

Yes, and I don’t think you can try to ban anyone from a WhatsApp group, either, unless you’re the administrator.

Don’t do anything you’re not responsible for expressing his disdain,he is
He need to be the person doing the form reproach and chastising

She can’t ban her from social events but once the friendship group know there’s a snakey, desperate woman in their circle who is keen on sucking off their husbands, she won’t be welcome for drinks and nibbles anytime soon.

Have a party and don't invite her.

Message in the group chat:

“Last night someone in the group sexually propositioned DH. It’s not the first time you’ve propositioned a friend’s spouse. Please stop this behaviour and get help, it’s embarrassing and makes it difficult to continue to be friends with you.”

everyone will surely know who it is, it addresses it in the group also in case others have had same issue.

If anyone's going to send anyone a text or WA message, it should be the OP's husband, but only if he wants to.

If a bloke propositioned me and I dealt with it no bother, I'd be fuming if my husband decided to infantalize me by going over my head and sending messages.

It'd make me look as pathetic and weak as the OP would make her husband look.

The tone of some of these replies are baffling to me.

Your friend offers to suck your husband off, he declines and you just brush that under the carpet because he dealt with it? No issue with your pal wanting to do you dirty like that? This isn’t some random woman that’s taken a shot with an unknown man; this is the OPs real life friend.

If people would be genuinely fine with that, then it’s honestly no wonder that so many men cheat on women with their friends.

For the time being just ignore her - do not message her as your DH told her to bugger off and chances are she will feel embarrassed about the whole thing today.
However, should your paths cross again in your position I might be tempted to make sure that Dh has shared what happened and watch her squirm as you look her up and down with distaste.

If she's a friend, tell her face to face (not online) how you're feeling about what she did.

If she's not a friend, trust that your husband handled the situation (and of course, don't invite her again when you have a say over who's invited).

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Idk why so many comments say don't message her, you are not his keeper. Nowt to do with being his keeper OP needs to tell the slaggy friend that the friendship is over and to stay away

Yes the idea of someone propositioning me, me dealing with it, and then my husband messaging people, coming out with it in the group chat, causing a scene would be absolutely mortifying and I’d be asking how dare he do that.

Correct. Do nothing, look like a timid little pushover and this woman will be back soon to try her luck again with him.

What if the male that proposition you is a friend of your husband? You DH would not be allowed to react? I know my H would be outraged and rightly so.

There is a big difference between being outraged and just crashing around doing and saying whatever he wants to make himself feel better rather than doing what I the person it happened to wants to do. I’d be mortified and furious.

It's embarrassing to message her. Surely your husband rejected her. When you next see her all you need do is give her a look and she'll be mortified for life. No point wasting your time texting her.