"Do they ever come back? Devastated. Following on. The endless winter continues.

[Pleasenotme]

Ok, so this is thread number three. I can hardly believe it, in fact I don't want to believe it. I don't want to be in this place, so bloody broken and - at times - on my knees with despair. This is the link to my previous rantings:
Do they ever come back? Devastated. Following on. Endless winter. | Mumsnet

Have never forgotten this OP. I hope she is on the mend, and healing a little more as time goes by.

Same x

Same. Im thinking of her and hope she’s doing well.

I never started my own thread, I just made some comments in OPs. Maybe she reads my update and feels less alone.

For me it has been a year and a couple of weeks since the bomb dropped. At the moment Im getting my (our) lovely House ready for sale. Im done with the low life my cheating husband turned out to be, but every now and then Im still tearing up for our teenaged kids and for my house. The family memories which I forever will look at in a different light.
Im sad for all this, the lost family unit. But I know I will be better on my own.
I can see now and take in that my husband didnt treat me right for years. Its all so clear now, and with each little thing I remember I Get a little upset and sorry that I put up with it. That I willingly forgave his abusive behavior and always soothed my self with the delusion he didnt mean to make fun of me, Get angry for nothing at all, drink to much and yell at me when drunk, let me handle everything with the kids alone. And so on.. It wasent like that the first couple of years, so I always held on to the good times I guess.
I just need to sell this house, find my own home and Get on with my new, independent life. Im feeling strong and free for most of the time. I’m sort of looking forward to my new life, and I think I will be fine.

Dear poster. Hoping things improved 💪

Thinking of you OP 💐

I've seen at least two threads like this since @Pleasenotme . There's some appalling men around.

Me too.

Its been almost a year…i see i am not the only one who is sometimes thinking about you op @Pleasenotme 🌺

Dear @Pleasenotme - Today is my three-year discovery day anniversary, and I just wanted to reach out and say I still think of you as a follower of your thread.

It still feels strange to say, and a few years ago I would’ve rolled my eyes at it, but it really does get a little easier. Not all at once, not neatly, but slowly, quietly, in little pockets of breathing room, and I hope you are feeling it too.

There are still moments that sting, and probably always will, but I’ve dipped a toe into the dating world. I’m not sure it’s really my scene yet, but it’s brought some lightheartedness back into my life. And somewhere along the way, I’ve started to discover who I am on the other side of everything, and I’m beginning to really like that person. I’m even starting to laugh again.

I just wanted you to know that there’s light ahead, even when it feels impossibly far.

I always hope you managed to survive your hurt @Pleasenotme 😭

How are you, OP? I do hope you've found some peace

I wish the OP would update

I have never forgotten this poster.

agreed, this post has stayed with me too and i would love to know how she is and that she's ok.

Same.

It's definitely not endless winter any more!

Seriously I hope the OP is ok and kicked this absolute clown into touch. He sounded pathetic.

Gosh, I have just read these threads. I do hope the OP has recovered from such torment and is living her best life. A gut-wrenching read....which she writes so beautifully.

I think a lot of people still think of her and hope she is in a better place now.

Yes, this one really stayed with me too. If you’re out there reading, OP, I really hope you’re in a better place now.

Ditto, I hope the op is ok. I wish she could let us know she is ok, her pain was so deep, it really stayed with me 😢

Same for me, I think of this op regularly and hope that she is ok.

I hope she's in a much better place now and has the happiness she deserves. He was a dreadful excuse for a human being.

Hi OP, another well-wisher here. I hope the devastation has lessened to a manageable level and than the frost has melted into sunshine.

I too think of this OP from time to time and hope she hasn't not posted due to not being able to say she is moved on and happy. Would love to think justice has been served on her DH.