Should I tell his wife?

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Not a huge deal, but a random guy messaged me on Facebook this evening wanting ‘sex chat and to swap pictures’.

He sent me unsolicited dick pics and wanted me to send pictures of me. I literally barely said anything apart from to ask what he wanted (given I didn’t know him). His profile picture was of him and his wife.

It took me two minutes to find her, and I called him out straight away and he blocked me.

He wasn’t ‘cheating’ in a serious sense, but I am so sick of men and the disrespect. It’s just gross. Does his wife deserve to know? I don’t know her. They have kids. My general feeling is everyone has the right to the truth, but I don’t know if it’s just mean.

Do I message her and let her know what an arse her husband is or is ignorance bliss?

Oh this is such a tricky one. On the one hand ignorance is bliss, whilst telling her could put a bomb on to her entire relationship, she could be a young mum dependent on him for everything; on the other hand she has a right to know who she has saddled herself with.

Well exactly but equally she could be suspecting him of doing shit like this and driving herself mad over it.
I don’t want to upset anyone but equally the disrespect is just huge, to her, but also to all the random women he’s sending pictures of his genitalia to.
why are men so gross?

Tell her.
What a revolting idiot.

I'd appreciate being told if I were his wife. Better than being blindsided if he leaves her and she's had no time to prepare.

I'd want to know if my husband was a sex pest pig.

Not only would I tell her, I'd also report the unsolicited pictures to the police. It's a crime. Men like him belong behind bars because you know their boundary crossing doesn't just stop at pictures.

As difficult as it is, you should tell her, she deserves to know what a shit he is & make choices about her own life, knowing the truth.

you can't protect her from him being a shit, not telling her just protects him for a while until she does find out, and she will because he's putting it out there.

That’s true. It’s actually the first time I’ve been sent a dick pic. Do they think we find this crap remotely sexy?
It wasn’t even impressive. But at least his wife will be able to verify it was definitely him. 🙈

I mean what kind of stupid twat messages women in this way with his wife in his profile picture??

I’d want to know - Give her a heads up to get her financials in order and see an solicitor as you are taking screenshots to the police and pressing charges.

Yeah I mean I've heard of it happening but it's never happened to me and I've used dating apps for years.

Plus it's Facebook, it's not like it's tinder ffs. I mean it still would not have been OK. But you don't expect that shit on fb!

I honestly would report him to the police. Its akin to flashing imo. Like, fuck creeps like that! Why should they be allowed to get away with it?
What if he messages underage women next? Or some poor person who is already recovering from some other trauma!

Dude is a brazen predator and should be on a list.

Are you sure it is actually him- not someone who has lifted his profile? If you are very sure, I would tell

Well as soon as I mentioned his wife’s name he blocked me, so pretty sure it was him.

and yes cyber flashing is a crime. So I could report him.

Exactly. I was hardly inviting it. Facebook!

Print screen and forward to his entire friends list.

Provided it's a legit profile, who else would it be?
Not really a good con is it? xD

Unless it's his wife...but I fail to see why...
And that would still make her a criminal sharing his pictures.

Whatever you do op, do not send the picture to his wife. I could be wrong here but, I think that would be illegal too. Not to say you couldn't arrange to meet her and show her the photo. Or, blur the photo.

I don’t know her and she lives nowhere near me.

I could message and ask for her consent to show unblurred photos. (If she wanted to verify his identity from his appendage 😂) That wouldn’t be a crime.

Because no doubt he will say he was hacked if she confronts him!

Good point.

Unless it's a crime to share other peoples photos that they've shared with you? A crime against him I mean.

I think I'd just tell her what happened. Screenshot the bit without the pics maybe.

She chose him so if you want to do it to make yourself feel better sure but are you wanting congratulations?

Don't send anyone the pics. Whilst you didn't ask for them, forwarding them could be considered revenge porn which is illegal!

Congratulations for what? I wanted opinions. It’s not a straightforward issue.

What a scumbag. I'd want to know, but some women know and don't want to be told. Be careful OP. Can you share them with her anonymously, with a fake account or something?

No I will blur them. I hadn’t actually realised it was a crime though. What an idiot.

Not from us but the wife

Of course not. I don’t expect anything from her. But she might benefit from knowing. I literally don’t know her any more than I know her sex pest husband.