Should I tell his wife?

[Unicornsfordays]

Not a huge deal, but a random guy messaged me on Facebook this evening wanting ‘sex chat and to swap pictures’.

He sent me unsolicited dick pics and wanted me to send pictures of me. I literally barely said anything apart from to ask what he wanted (given I didn’t know him). His profile picture was of him and his wife.

It took me two minutes to find her, and I called him out straight away and he blocked me.

He wasn’t ‘cheating’ in a serious sense, but I am so sick of men and the disrespect. It’s just gross. Does his wife deserve to know? I don’t know her. They have kids. My general feeling is everyone has the right to the truth, but I don’t know if it’s just mean.

Do I message her and let her know what an arse her husband is or is ignorance bliss?

Thanks - I’ve now also reported to the police… she hasn’t seen my message yet and may not at all, as we are not friends on Facebook and would have gone into message requests I guess.

Please send her all the screenshots and say I think you should know. I bet she will be relieved to find out as she’s probably already being gaslit by this miserable tw@t

Yes this is what I thought.

I haven’t told her I’ve reported it, I’d rather he finds that out from the police instead of her in case it puts her in a dangerous situation if he gets enraged or something. If the police even do anything, of course, but I think it’s helpful even from a data gathering point of view how much this goes on. Otherwise it won’t stop!

Icky man. He will never do it again now that’s for sure!

Well hopefully! 😂

I think others have mentioned this - but DON”t forward his pictures. It unfortunately makes you also guilty of sharing unsolicited sexual images (after all, just because he’s her husband doesn’t mean she’d not find them offensive). Delete any you’ve sent her if they’ve not been viewed yet and simply let the police deal with it.

No I covered the… offending item with a grey box but I sent pictures of the chat so she would know I wasn’t trolling or scamming.

Tell her, she might be looking for evidence to end things. Help a girl out.

Good - too many people knee jerk and forward these pics not realising they also become guilty under the malicious comms act. In fact, I know of a teenage boy who received unsolicited images from a GF, and showed a parent because he was upset and not sure what to do… and the boy got a strongly worded caution from the police for showing them to the parent (as he didn’t have her consent to do so!). It’s an arse of a law and many victims get caught up in it unwittingly.

She’s a king for advice. I see you on here all the time just trying to belittle people and generally being contrary. Very troll like behaviour. Why do you do it? Do you get a kick out of it?

Crikey…what a morning for you. Did the police take it seriously??

I guess it's got to be possible he was hacked - it would be a colossally stupid risk for a married men with children to send dick pics to strangers using his own identifiable FB account that directly links to his wife. Attached men who do this kind of thing (and I know they are legion) tend to use anonymous profiles.

Hmm it’s possible but also he got spooked when I mentioned her and immediately blocked.
if this was the only thing that occurred whilst he had been hacked I would be suspicious.

sadly some men are this stupid.

@Unicornsfordays tell her. im sick of these men doing shit without repercussions. also he cyberflashed, which is a crime

Also if it’s his dick he wasn’t hacked was he… unless as a married father he just has photos of his penis somewhere on Facebook already 😂

Report it. It’s a crime. You don’t need to do anything.
thenissuenhere is that these low level sex crimes are often indication of other bigger sexual crimes going on. This is partly why this and upslirtingvhave been made criminal offences- they are indicator crimes for escalating sexual crimes or even crimes already committed.
theres a certain man in France on trial for raping his wife, and getting other men to rape his wife- he was discovered when arrested for upskirting.

it’s a massively risky behaviour this random bloke has done form his own Facebook account. Seems odd, and if true and not hacked, is indicative of someone with a warped sense of reality and entitlement towards women and his sexual behaviour.

report it. Leave it to the police. Do not play vigilante

I know this isn't the issue but do you literally send naked pictures of yourself to people who have just contacted you? Is this what modern dating is like?

I would report him to the police. What he has done is illegal. It would be far more effective if a warning comes from them rather than if it comes from you.

@Marshbird that occurred to me too. So sad that we are now primed to think that a supposedly ‘minor’ think like sending unsolicited dick pics could just be the tip of the iceberg… but it often is now aways, isn’t it?

theres a certain man in France on trial for raping his wife, and getting other men to rape his wife- he was discovered when arrested for upskirting.

He has been DNA linked to the attempted rape and murder of an estate agent. The case is identical to the rape and murder of another estate agent, for which any DNA evidence has been discarded, so they don't have DNA evidence but they think he is responsible for that murder. He'll probably be put on trial for both.

Also there is a case near us of a family accusing a neighbour/family friend of sexually abusing their daughter

The family were disbelieved by many.

He's now been caught and is on trial for up skirting dozens of school girls.

Do you notice how these types can never seem to write in sentences.

Says a lot.

It wasn’t even dating! It was Facebook. I don’t even do online dating because it’s so horrific!

I did the online form for the police so doubt they will contact me any time soon but it’s done.

That's not really how sex pests and sex offenders work.

Personally I would want to know if I was in a relationship with a creep who sends dick pics