totally sick of dh and porn use - need advice

[sameoldstory]

Had to name-change as I'm an embarrassed regular.

I'm 6 weeks pregnant so probably a bit over-emotional but I have always been upset my my dh's love of porn. He's always paying for subscriptions to websites, which is about 10-20 quid a pop - he tends to pay and then cancel pretty soon after. It's just the usual stuff, nothing weird iykwim, but it pisses me off so much. We're a bit worried about money at the moment, esp with dc3 on the way, and he promised he would stop. Swore blind.

He knows how much I hate it, it makes me feel sick inside and I can't help feeling insecure as he ogles over other female's perfect bodies. This has been an ongoing issue between us for years. He promises he'll stop, then doesn't.

The thing is, I can see he will never change, and I don't know how I can be with him for the rest of our lives with this hanging over me. He's a good dh really, looks after us and I do believe he's do anything for me, so why won't he stop doing something that upsets me so much? I just can't love him as much as I should because of it.

Any wives out there who have learned to live with this kind of thing? How? I feel that it will ultimately wreck our marriage.

Sameoldstory,

I wonder if your husband's insecurities stem from his fear that you might behave like him (although I'm sure you don't).

Dittany,

I quote your last post: "It's the same thing after all isn't it?"

Now tell me, if one involves prostitution, why doesn't the other?

i dont think that 'attractive' and 'sexy' are the same thing though.i sometimes see women who i think are attractive,but i dont find them sexually attractive.i dont find other men sexually attractive either.

anyhow,there is a discussion on the rights and wrongs of porn here if you are interested.

Dittany,

I have only two comments to make to you.

1. Don't use sarcasm. It backfires.

2. Read my posts properly.

You needn't respond.

Divastrop: I shall join the other thread and leave this one now.