My wife and I had a very dumb argument. What is her problem?

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My wife and I have been married for 5 years.

Other then this dumb argument, we do get along great most of the time.

Recently I got a new job after being laid off for 3 weeks. I was filling out the paper work so I can have this job and like all jobs do, on the application they ask for emergency contact information.

Now in my first job put my mother's phone number but not anymore. Especially now that I am a fully grown adult and don't need anybody.

There are a couple of reasons.

1 I am a grown man. I am very independent and I am also very healthy. I eat well and mostly drink water and work out a lot so there will never be an instance where I am gonna need serious help from others. I can make decisions on my own.

2 in the past, when I had my first job when I was around 17 years of age, my manager at my first Job contacted my emergency contact Wich was my mother but not because there was actually an emergency. They called my mother to talk to her about my performance at work and how I can improve my performance. That caused my mother to lecture me telling me how I need to have a better work ethic and I better not slack at my job and manage my stresses better.
I was caught off guard by that. I quit that job not too long after because I didn't appreciate my manager bringing my work issues to my home.

Now I make sure not to confide in anybody when it comes to my personal stresses, feelings and especially work stresses and headaches. Not my parents, not my wife, not even my best friends.

Now here is how the argument happened, I was filling out the paper work in my home office and as an emergency contact, I put down my text free app's number.

At the same moment, my wife walked in on me and asked me why don't I put her number ?

I told her because I don't feel like it.

She was initially confused and told me that i should put her phone number as my emergency contact just in case something happens to me at my jobs location and I can't make decisions for myself. And she argued saying that she is my wife, she should consider putting her phone number on the application instead of using a random text free number.

I told her that I am grown and I can make decisions of my own and I told her to leave me alone. Being unemployed is already demeaning enough so I dont need her to nag at me. I walked away from her to shut down the argument.

What is my wife's problem? Why does she feel to need to give me grief about something so trivial ?

yea no way you got a job with that double digit IQ

These threads are ridiculous. That's it now, I'm calling your mother.

Exactly. Gw must have had an easy life but god, how does his wife cope?

AS self-sufficient as you are OP, you have no common sense.

What on earth am I reading?!!! The point about drinking water and eating well is so irrelevant too, emergencies happen to supposedly “healthy” people!!!!. These events aren’t all related to how healthy you are fgs. I know a marathon runner who had a heart attack, another healthy person who got hit by a car at work. You’re being incredibly selfish by not putting your wife’s number as an emergency contact.

Surely this can’t be real, I refuse to believe anyone is so ignorant and naive.

It’s an emergency contact number, it can only be used to contact someone in an emergency (if you are in the U.K. or the EU data protection laws means that the information can only be used for the specified purpose).
In one office I was in a man in his 40’s had a heart attack at his desk (he died a few days later) I assume HR rang his wife to let her know he was being taken to hospital what with it being an emergency and all.

This is a workplace not school so stop acting like a stroppy teenager.

You sound absolutely ridiculous, of course your wife should be put down as your emergency contact.

I might talk to my best friends. I am not sure if I want to because I hate confiding in others but I'll try.

Honestly you’re being ridiculous. It’s a tick box to ensure your safety and your unwillingness to comply is immature and selfish. I work in ICU accidents happen every day. Occasionally people come in and we have no NoK details and they have come in alone. We have to get the police involved to try and find family. That would be such an utter waste of resources in your circumstances. I’ve been in the workforce for 15 years, my emergency contact has never been contacted about me but it’s there if it’s needed. Yes your young fit and healthy therefore it’s unlikely it will ever be needed so what’s the harm in giving it just in case.

You've posted before. I remember you. Not sure why you think you're going to get dramatically different responses this time round.

Anyway, I think your wife should take out a very large life insurance policy on you. At this rate, you may die from something treatable but the doctors can't get hold of your wife because you're playing silly buggers.

Most grown men don't keep going on about how grown up they are, they don't make their decisions based on a mildly humiliating event from when they were 17, and they don't think drinking water makes them invincible.

You sound unbelievably immature.

This is mental.....are you honestly saying if you dropped dead at work or had a stroke or heart attack that you wouldn't want your wife to be contacted??? You'd seriously have it so your employer has to call the police and get them to knock on your wife's door to tell her. Show your wife some respect. It's not all about you!

And here we go again. The exact same macho ‘Cat That Walks’ nonsense this OP always posts.

Unless you were working for a family member or a family friend or you were in the US, I don’t believe for a minute that your workplace phoned your mother to talk about your work performance. That doesn’t happen in the U.K.

This has got to be a troll, surely. No one is this stubborn or idiotic

This poster posts thread after thread about how he's so manly and independent and relying on your wife allows her to abuse you and various other incel nonsense. Please don't engage in good faith. He needs therapy, not mumsnet.

You're wrong, you know you're wrong, everyone else is telling you how emergency contacts work

In the UK we often call it next of kin, by the way. It's who to inform if you are hospitalised or die.

Not to tell them about your work performance.

By the way you say you can fend for yourself. It certainly doesn't sound like it from the way you talk and your misunderstanding of perfectly normal employment paperwork.

I'd set her free I'd I were you, allowed her to find a more respectful marriage with someone who understands relationships, emotions, employment, and the world in general.

This is fine. Don’t put a contact number for a human being who cares about you. But a few words of advice .

When in work

Don't walk up and down stairs without holding the railing, especially when it has been raining.

Always check office chairs for loose fittings before you sit in them.

Never unplug or plug in devices with wet hands unless you are a trained electrician, in which case you know not to do this anyway.

Carry a small thermometer, or get an app on your phone to check the temperature of your tea or coffee. Be careful with that hot kettle!

Don’t sit next to colleagues who make you laugh at lunch, choking is nothing to be laughed at.

Be careful opening windows too wide. Defenestration is not just an impossible scrabble word.

If the fire alarm rings it rings for you as well as your colleagues.

What a prat. It's for when you do need someone 🙄

If you find his previous thread it will make more sense

#teamwife

You were a teenager so phoning your mum was probably appropriate if they didn’t think they could talk to you.

Accident at work/crash/head injury? Why would you want your wife not to know? Not a dumb argument and if you don’t want your wife there when unconscious why are your married?

You're not listening@Sugarcoldturkey... He's a big grown up man who can do it all by himself. His boss phoned his mum 14 years and he's still cross about it. He doesn't need anyone, the big grown up🙄

Well, it’s at least his third post on here judging by the same preoccupations (women exploiting male vulnerability, or finding it unattractive, the necessity to Be A Man and not ever confide in your wife) and the US English.

Ok, then Andrew Tate groupie I guess. Your woman is just for the sex right, she's not worth talking to?

That weird noise you're always hearing is every woman's vagina clamping shut when you're nearby, btw.

You’re the problem