How sure are you that your partner/husband wouldn’t cheat?

[Gerithegiraffe]

I have cheated in the past (on an abusive ex) but can hand on heart say I couldn’t cheat even if I tried on my husband. I spoke to him about it and basically said it would be so pointless anyway because I get everything I need from him (side note: not that not getting what you ‘need’ is any excuse for cheating, there’s NEVER an excuse for cheating)

i am prepared to be told I’m naive but I genuinely trust him a billion percent, and him me, and honestly feel like cheating is the absolute last thing he’d or I would ever do. I can’t really explain it but it’s a lovely feeling. I feel genuinely really sad on here sometimes when I see the amount of people posting about cheating partners and it just got me thinking how sure would you be that your partner or husband wouldn’t cheat?

Before I found out he had cheated with an undetermined amount of people I would have hand on heart said he would never cheat and no one else in mine or his family (except maybe his sly mother) or friends would have said any different How wrong can you be😂

I might have said I was 💯 sure when I was younger. We’ve been together for nearly 25 years and I’m older and wiser now and I think it’s very unlikely (that he has or will) but never say never. Adult relationships are complicated, people are flawed. I think it’s a naive to say you’re certain. I actually miss being young and having such strong faith that it could never happen. Once you have gone through very difficult times together, you realise you’re just people like everyone else, not two characters in a love story that are destined for happily ever after.

Depends on what you class as cheating.

I 100% believe that DP would never engage in an ongoing affair. Both for moral reasons, and sheer logistics. She'd leave me before she cheated on me.

However, that doesn't mean I believe that she couldn't make a stupid decision in the moment, and kiss someone else or even sleep with them. Not because I don't trust DP, or because she's done anything to make me think she'd do it, but because I don't think there's a person on the planet who couldn't have a moment of weakness if the circumstances were just right.

None can be 100% sure. Not even about ourselves. I am actually surprised when people say they are 100% sure their partner wouldn’t cheat.