Domestic violence from neighbour- need help!

[Queenofheaven]

I’ve had an ongoing nightmare saga with an ex-convict neighbour who has been abusing his gf, mum and pretty much everyone around him for years. I have PTSD from an abusive childhood so this has been a nightmare situation for me.

Over the years I’ve been in contact with the landlord, the police, the safer neighbourhoods police team, local councillors and MPs- reported his nuisance noise to the council etc. This man seems untouchable.

The other day he was violently physically attacking his gf and they were having an extreme argument. We called police. He shouts at them the whole time, swears at them, also tells them they can’t come into his flat (they agree for some reason!) and they speak to him at an open door and speak to the gf downstairs in the communal area.

She defends him, says it’s actually us who are always fighting (lol), and for some reason officers are happy with this and leave. Keep in mind this man was in prison for a masked attack on a family that he carried out with other men. He’s had people show up with machetes outside our flat, he threatened kill his daughters bf and police came to take her away - even then he swore at them, told them not to come into his flat and they didn’t. He wasn’t arrested, wasn’t questioned.

It’s been a few days since this incident now but his door has been open for the past 3 days and a buzzing alarm going off every morning. Zero noise or movement from his flat, unsure if he’s even in there or not.

This situation has ground me down and I don’t even want to be involved now but can’t tell if we’re in danger or need to do something more. We are moving in 3 months but have nowhere to stay until then, I don’t know what to do honestly. An ambulance was here for him a few weeks ago too and he came back in a hospital gown so I’m sort of wondering if there’s been a medical event.

You say he’s a psycho/violent/paranoid but enough to booby trap his flat if he thinks people are out to get him ?

Update;

he’s just come back :( glad I didn’t do the police check. Heard him saying “oh shit I left my door open”

Commenting to know what happens! If the doors jammed open he's either left it open whilst moving something and ended up having to do a runner or he's in there dead. The comments on his paranoia and behaviour surrounding no one goes near his stuff are in contrast to the fact his doors been wide open for days! I'd just call the police OP no way in a million years is a person who's that paranoid about his stuff being out in the open leave the place unattended and open for all for days.

Oh my god! He's back! He was that thick he left the door open 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Ah well. Probably for the best. What. A. Fucking. Moron though!

Thought we were finally rid of him. His girlfriend is with him too

Aw I actually feel gutted for you. Not because I wished this man dead or injured, but just in case this was a chance for you to finally be free of him if he'd moved, fled or been arrested or something.

You clearly haven't read the thread and you are giving advice. At least read the thread and understand the op and where she's coming from.

Yes I can read, and have read the thread.
My advice is still the same, not everyone has the same opinions.

You be a hero and see where it gets you good luck

If it was me I would have shut his front door and go about my business.

Sad news op he's back.

Thanks xx

I hope your move happens quickly, OP.

Counting down the days at this point!

No need to thank me if you had your way op would be battling now with her neighbour while your safe behind a keyboard. You gave terrible advice own it.

I'm not interested in arguing with you.
Just leave it yeah?
People are allowed differing opinions.
I would have called for a welfare check, you wouldn't. End of.

Scroll on and ignore me if you think you're right. I do care about the ops safety and welfare and the best outcome for her.

Perhaps he's dead or seriously ill, I'd leave it a few more days before you check. I hope your move goes well, they sound like a nightmare.

Oh rotten luck, OP. God speed, with your move.

Damn! I had my fingers crossed for you, that he'd been locked up sometime
Countdown until you're in your new home

Somewhere

Unfortunately the police often don’t want to get involved when somebody has mental health issues because of the work it creates for them. I live in a housing association flat as well, and shortly after moving in the old man downstairs started playing loud music and shouting obscenities in the middle of the night. Over the following weeks this escalated to him repeatedly calling me a prostitute and eventually taking a hammer to my door and breaking the reinforced glass above it. The police kept him in overnight and let him go home the next day and said the police doctor had found nothing wrong with him when he was clearly a paranoid schizophrenic. Turns out he was also a convicted rapist and that the housing association knew all about him, had a catalogue of complaints from previous neighbours and had flagged my flat as not suitable for a single woman because of him. But that info didn’t get passed onto the department allocating properties, and even though they did evict him eventually as a result of my complaints, they wouldn’t uphold my complaint against them because they are “not legally responsible for tenants’ behaviour”. I ended up dropping it because I had mental health issues and couldn’t cope with it any more, but I regret that now. I know it’s like banging your head against a brick wall with housing associations/councils but if it were in your position I’d make a complaint against the landlord for not dealing with it, and wouldn’t stand for their lame excuses and legal speak. They’ll do anything to wriggle out of taking responsibility and seem to rely on people running out of the energy and/or money to deal with it. They shouldn’t be allowed to get away with it. Sorry you’re having to deal with all this and I do hope you have nice neighbours in your new place.

There isn't much more you can do I'm afraid. You've reported him, the police have come out but his GF has stuck up for him and said its you that's the problem. I would leave them to it and just think you will be away from them in 3 months time. You don't need the worry or trouble from getting others involved as these neighbours will likely cause problems for you. Just keep your head down, ensure your property is locked up and your safe inside and mark the days off to moving on your calender. I know you shouldn't have to put up with it but you've done everything you possibly can and to avoid further stress and worry for yourself you need to try and detach yourself from it all. Best wishes for the move and your new home x

Id just make sure nobody could get through my door. How often does his gf or mother visit? Wait till they come then see what happens. The longer you dont see him the closer to you moving out. If anything has happened, he could have been arrested and someone broken in, just say we dont even look at his door, we try to keep our distance, and thats exactly what I'd do. If you don't want to just leave it, ask police if they know anything say its concerning as not heard or seen him and doors open.

Firstly, I’d say defo call for a welfare check and secondly after a certain amount of call outs for DVA they’re supposed to take it out of the victims hands whether they take action and press charges. BUT some police officers will look the other way because they still have the ‘just a domestic’ mentality/culture.