Dating guy whose "wife was shot dead"

[Beautifulbouquet]

For a month I've been casually seeing someone.

He is quite hard work in general.

This weekend he told me that his wife was shot and killed in Afghanistan where she was a marine.

Having looked this up...this seems impossible. A tiny number of British female soldiers were killed in Afghanistan and all deaths are documented on the government website and seem widely reported in the media.

It seems this is a very bizarre lie.

Or I'm losing my sanity.

I think he eats peanut butter in bed with a knife, and he was embarrassed.

An 8-inch curved knife? What is he - a sword-swallower?

Maybe it’s to cut the crackers?

Do you see the what I did there? The dude is nuts, some might say crackers

I didn’t do it deliberately, but if the shoe fits

Plenty of swallowing going on around here

Nailed it

It's a cheese knife of course.

He joined the army to spite his parents,who brought him up in the Jehovah’s witness’s, & yes he was able to get out of going to the Balkans War.

I’m a gay man. Your friend is a vain idiot. Do not ask him for any life advice. You’re an adult and should start to surround yourself with smart and mature people. If thats the extent of that idiots opinion I wouldn’t be surprised if the gay friend messages the ex to see if he can get a fuck in himself.

@Floppyelf thank you, I thought the same. He doesn't sound much of a friend does he!

Yeah it’s a bit shit isn’t it, but perhaps he was trying to be lighthearted. As lighthearted as one can be about a fantasist with a knife under his pillow anyhow

God there’s some dicks posting on here. Ignore them OP, if you’re still bothering to read.

Thanks! Just got in from long day at work!

I still feel a bit shit. Would be good to go out with friends and laugh about it.

Maybe will get the chance on Sunday night.

“laugh about it”

Someone’s done a 180 from the fear and anxiety you were conveying about this supposed loon a day or two ago!

Actually you'll see me thank several posters for helping me see the humour in it.

What else can you do...dwell on it for ever?

Even before I posted my friends were cheering me up.

As for fear it was posters on here advising to call the police, lock my doors etc etc

What you posted isn't kind, constructive or anything positive...it doesn't even show good reading comprehension...take a look at yourself and what you bring to the world. You just posted that directly below and in response to a post where I said I was stil feeling "a bit shit". Thanks for starting off my day with your little dose of venom. It just makes me more appreciative of the good people in this world.

OP

read the thread

You have done a complete 180
and the screenshot confirmed that you were completely exaggerating your fear and anxiety about this odd ball

I will look forward to recognising your next drama fuelled OP (under a different name of course)

Actually I still feel.shit!

I wonder what is wrong with me that I didn't pick up on early signs. I feel sad and concerned for him. I feel embarrassed in front of my friends. I feel stressed that my performance at work the last two days has been a little off. I feel anxious about bumping into him. I mostly feel scared he will suck me in with some 'explanation'. I feel sad that all my relationships seem doomed. I feel conscious of the sacrifices the armed forces make. I feel quite shit.

But I didn't post all this mainly because of people like yourselves who shamelessly go around being nasty.

I will cry on the way to work again no doubt.

But I will also look forward to laughing about this.

I won't read any further comments. You turn my stomach.

@earlylunch
Stop it with the personal attacks. The OP is entitled to feel a whole range of emotions, fear, worry and yes, also laughter are perfectly normal emotions. Especially in such a weird situation. Sometimes, finding the humour in a situation can be the best coping mechanism. Just because you think she should be acting differently doesn't mean you are right. And sometimes, as threads progress, the OP starts to see and feel things differently. That's humans for you!

If you don't believe the OP or feel she is being overly dramatic, then just scroll past.

@earlylunch No need to be unpleasant. You have no idea of OP's state of mind and the harm you might be causing.

It's really hilarious. People give OP's stick when they say they are in a relationship like this and don't leave and make a break and now an OP has been brave and done it (admittedly in her own way but only she knows the whole context) and she still get's crap. It's like people are personally offended by what she's said but if the boot was on the other foot would probably cry "mental health" and "be kind" and "you've given me an emotional boo-boo". Get a fucking life and if you don't want to engage move on.

Don't know what is wrong with the world now.

OP - don't feel shit. You did the right thing. Be vigilant but this hyper vigilance is mainly cos you feel he might drag you back in. But you are strong and you know in your heart he won't. I know he won't. And others who are not total and utter dip-shits know he won't.

what attack?

I have pointed out
as others have observed
the complete 180
from terrified to it all being a bit of a giggle

She didn't say it was all a bit of a giggle and that she was all hunky dorey now. What she said was that she was still feeling shit but was hoping to laugh about it and was even finding some humour in the situation now that she has taken control. Which is a normal reaction to a difficult situation. The OP is showing strength and courage by looking for a smile in the situation.

You’re a weirdo, The guy had a knife in his bed and lied about his wife getting shot, the dudes likely a psycho. She’s ended it and moved on, and trying to see the lighthearted side. You’re abusive. What a great parent you’re going to be when your kid comes to you with relationship problems “oh another drama hey, here we go” yuck.