Anyone else trying not to contact a guy 3

[SunsetSkylane]

Anyone still want to chat?

@pubertyalloveragain I think you posted last on thread 2, how you doing?

@namechangeforthis5 @Frith2013 @Thewookiemustgo another thread if you want it, or maybe you're all magically cured - or maybe Wookie is sick of our shit 😂😂

I’m always careful to say that there are those on here who are not in affair situations.
I don’t disagree with a word of what you’ve said, of course nobody is on here for a fight, I always presumed all anyone was looking for was support.
What I was trying to say is that of course what has happened is upsetting, but on MN if rules are not broken then there’s not a lot anyone can do about who joins in, how they choose to express themselves and how much respect they do or do not show to other posters and respond to replies, that doesn’t get policed unless it goes far too far and is reported. This isn’t going to alter here, MainlyWater has stated her opinions and isn’t going to be persuaded, therefore I’m not going to get riled by it, I don’t think it’s worth it.
If I responded then further derailment would happen and all that the come back did was provoke further posts and it went downhill fast. I wasn’t defending or condemning anyone, because everyone has the right to respond as they wish within the rules. To let it wind me up and go on about whether or not I like it, think it’s rude or insensitive and missed the point or not just causes more derailment. One or two posters (and I totally understand why they were upset) said some unkind and judgmental things about MainyWater, too, which only made things worse, as entitled as they are to feel that way and say it. It wasn’t a one way street at one point.
I get why the upset, I get the derailment, I absolutely agree with you about the need for balance and compassion in responses, I think it’s great that despite past hurts people can respond compassionately and politely, everyone should, but we’re all on the wrong forum if we think that MN affords a huge amount of that. It can be hugely supportive or pretty damaging sometimes, sadly.
MN threads tend to end in one of two ways, they fizzle out because the OP stops responding, or they go out with an argument and a lot of upset people leaving the thread.
It’s sad how this one has ended.

Not sure if anyone is still here but I just need a big scream into the void.

Thank you <screams>

Sent you a message

Thanks @lovelymango I tend to only use the app, but if I remember my login details I'll check it!

There’s a new thread. Please get on it because I need support too! X

Thanks, I found it, just deliberating over whether I should actually spend any more of my life discussing an unsolvable problem.

I’m back there too

Oh mate. I don't think I really want to type it out to be honest. If I do I'll come over to the thread. Just wanted to AAAAARGGH for a bit.

Hi where is the new thread please? Really need some support 😕

Me too can't find it