Anyone else trying not to contact a guy 3

[SunsetSkylane]

Anyone still want to chat?

@pubertyalloveragain I think you posted last on thread 2, how you doing?

@namechangeforthis5 @Frith2013 @Thewookiemustgo another thread if you want it, or maybe you're all magically cured - or maybe Wookie is sick of our shit 😂😂

@SunsetSkylane you have worded that perfectly. Thank you to all of you. You have no idea what a support you all are x
@HarryPottersSecretSister i will do that in future x

I had some twat on an online scrabble game send me pervy messages too. They’re disgusting

@lovelymango I feel exactly the same! Mine is so good to me (fucked up massively in the past but a decent, good man)

@SunsetSkylane dont be sorry- all I could do was laugh myself. WTF like.
and what did he think I was going to say to that? “Oh wow John Smith, I never knew! Thinking about me whilst having sex with your OH is one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever heard. Where do you want me?”

Not surprised re your insta either.

I wish I was gay tbh

Hi ladies,

I found this thread and have found reading your posts very helpful today because I'm in a similar boat. It's not that I'm taking comfort in you all feeling like this! But just that I actually feel comfort that there are other people in similar situations. So hope you don't mind me joining!

I've been involved with a guy for the last couple of years, he is (sorry to drop the word of the moment) a narcissist and has very little sense of conscience. I need to find the strength to not contact him because when I'm in touch with him, I always know that it's going to leave me feeling worthless and exhausted by the end of it. Even if he is nice for a week or two, it always comes out eventually. Which makes me question my sanity in going back for round 2 (or round 100 in my case). I never thought I'd allow someone to treat me the way he does and speak to me the way he does. But I do and it's humiliating.

Sometimes I really do wish I had never met him.

A guy who I thought was a good friend text me and said 'how did your grandad's funeral go' LITERALLY THE DAY AFTER IT then proceeded to text me multiple times about how he couldn't stop imaging us kissing.

I mean.

I told DH all about it and blocked him. I mean...it's quite shameful but I used him. It let me be all 'oh how shocking when he knows I'm married' when I knew fine well what was also in my phone. I used him like cover for the other guy.

What a shit.

I know I've written this here before but I had one man send me absolutely disgusting messages. It was in Portuguese but the words for penis etc are the same.

We were playing online chess !

Chess is hot. Who knew.

Omg

@Timetoheal4good
welcome. I could have wrote what you wrote myself and I understand.

So you’re in the right place re strength. I almost feel like this thread is like going to skimming world for bad men. Its accountability almost. You’ve wrote you need to not contact him and you know why: you now have to save face at next Sunday’s ‘bad man weigh in’

if you don’t contact him, will he contact you or what is you’re usual routine?

I hope you’re ok. You’re doing the right thing.
anyone or anything that makes you feel worthless and exhausted has got to go: life is too precious and short for you to feel that way on a loop x

*slimming world
i meant

@HarryPottersSecretSister that would be really funny if it wasn’t true. Me and my friends at Uni a billion years ago used to go to a wine bar in the city we were in after lectures at around 5pm ish and we learned that as the working population finished work in the surrounding offices came in, it was easier to just leave.
Otherwise you spent your time even at 19/20 years old getting unwanted attention from older men, mostly married older men. We used to smile sweetly and tell them to go home to their wives or ask for her number so we could tell her what a lovely husband she’d got. Tale as old as time, this was early eighties and I bet it’s still exactly the same.
All after the slap on the back and “Blimey! Well done mate!” they’d no doubt get from their colleagues to boost their tiny little……..
ego.

Urgh why is it bothering me today.

Are you ok @SunsetSkylane ?
update my end. He has promised not to talk about sex anymore and wants to be friends. I said ok but I’m giving him no time at all before he caves 😂

I mean nothing in particular really @lovelymango I think he was in my dream maybe, then I woke up to stupid Facebook memories. It's fine.

How's this friends thing gonna work then 🤨

Well I’m guessing I won’t hear from him 🤣. But at least I’m not people pleasing anymore

Very true.

I just read a thing that said something like...discipline is the highest form of self-respect, and it made me think of this thread.

@SunsetSkylane totally agree.

Guys I'm a fucking lost cause 😁

Be kind to yourself, @SunsetSkylane . It's not easy to extricate yourself from these things. I have failed a bit this week - nothing inappropriate (there never is) but not good for my recovery. We just need to keep on trying to choose ourselves until our brain catches up!

Oh I'm not feeling bad about it all. Fuck it, I'm sure I should but 🤷‍♀️

@SunsetSkylane you’re not but if you are so am I. I’ve been bending his ear for two days now. He has been true to his word though but I think he’s getting bored now

End of the day, he's just got me. That's kinda it.

https://livingwithlimerence.com/the-best-cure-for-limerence/

Not sure if any of this would resonate with anyone, no one article or train of thought is “right” as such, but I treat articles like this like going into a department store , I go through it all but take what suits me best. I’m not endorsing this guy or article in any way, it’s just an interesting read about limerence.

The website has loads of articles and links to more stuff about limerance and obsessing btw. There might be more useful stuff amongst that.

Same here if he carries on like this but I completely expect him not to.