Anyone else trying not to contact a guy 3

[SunsetSkylane]

Anyone still want to chat?

@pubertyalloveragain I think you posted last on thread 2, how you doing?

@namechangeforthis5 @Frith2013 @Thewookiemustgo another thread if you want it, or maybe you're all magically cured - or maybe Wookie is sick of our shit 😂😂

Recently separated from my partner of 9 years - ended things officially mid-August but were messaging and occasionally meeting up (nothing physical/sexual).

Last Sunday he started crying to me about how much he misses me, won't find anyone else like me, is miserable etc., I asked him to choose whether he will fully commit to me or not (as this was the reason for the eventual separation), and he said would not commit to me - so I told him that he has to let me go and that we can't be friends/in touch any more.

Phoned him on Tuesday to sort out some finances and that was that. NC since then. Feel quite empty - it's the right choice but still a big void/adjustment.

Sorry to ramble... am up and down with it all!

Hello all- found the new thread. Thanks for keeping it going. I’m doing well. I still miss him well his messages but it’s not worth it so there we are. Glad you’re all ok. @Thewookiemustgo i hugely appreciate the stuff you have said. I appreciate all of you actually

Btw it’s name change 😁

Hey @lovelymango 👋

Hi @lovelymango glad I can help. X

Hey all, I have gotten over a hump and I think last week actually helped. I am done with him living in my mind and have barely thought of him. He will leave some mark deep down, I feel he served dome sort of purpose. But the whole reason, season, or a lifetime rings true Definitely a messed up season. Thanks for all the support x

God I keep thinking about him again.

Oh @lovelymango I've never stopped. Every day on and on it goes.

@SunsetSkylane ah what are we like?

I keep wanting him to message me. I will never message him

I know.

I mean, I'm fine. But he's still there, underneath things, every day. Quieter, but there.

Posted too soon!

I think this is the stage where I have to really look at it; I've got enough distance to do that now. Maybe once I'm done mulling it all over (in 10-15 years maybe 😂) then it can all be laid to rest.

Hello all. Struggling atm with no contact. Felt my needs weren't being met over a period of time and communicated this but no real change. So many good aspects too so hard to walk away.
He asked to meet for lunch last Friday and I declined...I only have 30 mins for lunch and his suggestion was very last minute. Nothing since.
I'm thinking the short term pain of separation is better than the long term frustration of feeling like an option rather than a priority
Just need to keep focused.

😂 I don’t think it will take that long but it sounds like you have made progress.

@LuckyLinda3 well done for saying no and knowing your worth. You are spot on

I think for me it’s that he would talk to me whereas I don’t message my friends all the time but ultimately he would stop talking and it would change nothing. Worse one was when my dad passed and he said I could talk about it then stopped answering and said he was ‘busy’

Hey im joining because im still sad over someone i split with at the end of last year. Im fully aware he wasnt right for me but i still miss him. Id never be able to say this to anyone in real life so its nice to vent here. I have a full life and genuinely am happy most of the time but yikes i still miss him as much as i did the day we split. Sometimes i feel so much better and think fuck im over him then the next day i wake up with a ache in my stomach from missing him. We only dated for 10 months and have been no contact since, i feel so pathetic. He probably doesn't give me a second thought. Im lucky in a way that im mega hardfaced so i would never ever contact him and if he ever did contact me id have no trouble telling him to piss off.

It was cathartic getting this out x

Well @lovelymango maybe not. I'm currently mulling over meeting him for lunch.

@SunsetSkylane oh right. Wasn’t expecting that

Yeah...me neither. There's a set of circumstances where it could happen. I can't decide whether to put it into motion or not.

What do you want deep down? I used to think I could meet him but when it got real I was just scared.

Dunno. Just to be mates again? I think? It's not like I'm gonna run off into the sunset with him or anything 😂 Just miss my pal.

I think.

I get that.

@SunsetSkylane I’m sorry you miss him, I can see how sad you are about it all. For what it’s worth, meeting him solves nothing, it will only keep you exactly where you are right now. If anyone else knew about your meeting, would it hurt them?

I dunno @Thewookiemustgo

Although I don't know if I would tell DH; it would involve a little sleight of hand.Which is code for lying. I get it.

It's a rubbish day. I must be bloody ovulating.