WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

[ShockedAF]

Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

If you send the right move link to a few of us we will call up and book viewings to ruin his coming week … 95% of us won’t turn up and the remaining 5% will trail in mud, bring children eating sticky sweeties feedback to the agent about the weird seller and the ‘funky smell’ 😇.

That’s hurtful to you but it’s embarrassing like hell FOR HIM.

Dint take the blame for something that has nothing to do with you!
Actually I’d make it even clearer how much a twat he has been to people aroubd you. No reason why you should protect him.

Please just realise what a cowardly shit he is and do not be embarrassed. He's not worth it.

You could text him:

”OMG - saw the For Sale sign - so exciting! Where are we moving to? Can’t wait to see our new place 🪧🏡🚚🎉 Chilling the champagne now and calling the parents 🍾🥂”

Yes OP, link please to some PMs.

will happily bugger things up

I would go to the estate agent and say I’m interested in the house on X-Road. I’m a cash buyer. Do you know how quickly the resident can move?

No. He’s been busy with someone in his garage. I’ve ignored two texts he sent this afternoon. He will know why obviously. I’m not going to message him today. So probably no more updates this evening.

Even without the fact he's acting strangely this is all immaturely dramatic.

If a man gaslights you, leave.
If you can't ask them questions, it's not relationship.
Been frozen still at work and mentioning numerous times you're still cold is a bit daft.

Don't care so much for someone who doesn't have a consideration bone.

It could be innocent, could be a surprise, but as you won't ask...

While I wouldn't be able to help but bring it up, I would also be thinking like you and assuming that there were unpleasant reasons why this was not something I had been informed of.

It's a super weird thing to not mention. I work remotely and even my work colleagues dotted across the country mention if they are in the process of moving or selling!

OP - never mind the "secret" house sale, you deserve better than to be with someone who gaslights you.

Don't forget DDog!

Op does he definitely view this as a relationship?!

As @godmum56 said, you've nothing to be embarrassed about. Most of us have to kiss a few frogs, or at least spend time and energy on them, before we find a decent person with standards and who values us.
You've got two options, either go round and ask him what the heck is going on, or pretend nothing is happening and wait for him to contact you.
On the plus side, you're likely to get some nice new neighbours soon!

Oh come on, in the actual real word, events like this absolutely ARE a shock and drama.

Most people aren't cold lizard people who would be able to walk away from their romantic partner without a second glance backward and just not care. Of course OP is reeling.

Ha ha. I might just do this at some point. Though I’ll feel bad for the agent!

What an absolute shit - especially as he used you to help him declutter. I really feel for you.

I have to be honest if someone did that to me I’d confront them and give them a piece of my mind. I think rising above it will let him off too easily.

There is no possible explanation that is acceptable.
I wouldn’t block and I wouldn’t ask, I would just wait for him to come round, keep him on the doorstep while he squirms and tries to explain himself, and then laugh in his face and shut the door on him, forever.
Any time you see potential buyers I would go outsde muttering loudly to yourself about the dam rats coming from next door again.

I guess not ?

What has he messaged you this afternoon? Normal chit chat as if nothings out of the ordinary?

I wouldn’t be asking him, what’s the point? If he wanted you to know he would have told you, so that would be it for me, end of the line.

You can't ghost him, you live next door

Yes. The usual stuff about how he was making it happen at work (we joke about this he isn’t being a turd) and asking me how my meetings were. When I didn’t reply he sent another asking how my day was going with all the same sign offs as usual.

Not if when it’s raised you look slightly awkward and say something like -

‘well, it’s difficult isn’t it, one doesn’t want to draw attention to people’s problems. Not my place to say anything and I’m sure he’s made what he feels is the right decision for his finances. It’s a relief to be honest. I’m not going to gossip about him though, he’s got enough problems without that!’ Big smile - ‘can I get you another drink?’

😎😎😎

I might try. With grey rock if I bump into him?

Yes. This is where I am at.