WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

[ShockedAF]

Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

What an absolute jerk. I hope his house has black mold and can't be sold. Meanwhile you meet Mr Right and he has to see it everyday.

Absolutely, life's too short to be putting up with that. It sounds like he finds it hard to be serious, but this is a serious subject and definitely something you at least talk about to the person you're with, it's a huge thing selling up and looking elsewhere.

I'd be tempted to put mine up for sale too, not joking.
Not that I'd want to sell it, but I would get a swanky for sale board outside and leave him to stew in all kinds of weird shit feelings for a day or so too.

it's a bit odd to watch your partner from behind the curtain.

Are you sure you're in a relationship?

But why no, “I’m getting the house ready to sell—I’m only moving down the road. Thanks for helping me declutter and put together the furniture for the photos.”???

@ShockedAF Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.
He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

”hi Joe, I’m a bit confused… why are you texting me as all is normal while you have a ‘sale’ sign on your lawn?”

That’s what I would do. He may respond:” Oh I’m buying the house around the corner because mine is too big, sorry for not telling you”. If he was dating the woman who went into the house with him Ai would find who she is and let her know you have been in a relationship with him all this time.

Personally I'd take his for sale sign down for a laugh and carry on like normal and see what he says/how he acts

It wil be interesting to see if he comes round or texts you as normal.

I really cannot understand why you wouldn’t have just rung him and mentioned the for sale sign. Embarrassment wouldn’t enter my mind. Not much point blocking him if he lives next door and he can just come round and visit you, or leave you a note

Okay then there’s no doubt that he’s not mistaken it for a neighbour with benefits because you don’t meet the families in those circumstances!

It’s so beyond weird that is sounds kind the plot for a TV series.

You have nothing to be embarrassed about - he’s the one who is acting oddly. It’s very not normal to behave like this.

Call a friend now - get them to come over with a bottle of wine.

Then text this arsewhole and ask him why he didn’t tell you he was selling his house - you might as well find out what kind of excuse he’s going to try before you block him.

But don’t be on your own. Get your Mum or friend on the phone or FaceTime if they can’t come over.

Phone him and tell him someone has put for sale signs on his house.

Sound all frantic and such.

Just ask him ffs

Shouldn’t he have these conversations with OP first though?

I am astonished you haven’t just asked him.

Have you checked on Rightmove and Zoopla?

I thought that it was a weird way of wanting to move in with you, until I read that his place is bigger.
I think he's running away, literally, because he doesn't want to be with you any more and hasn't a clue how to tell you. I'm sorry, @ShockedAF that's an awful way to treat someone. Unless he has a Very Good Excuse and can explain himself, that is.

Yes! And then gaslight him that you didn’t do it!!!

OP said it’s online, yes.

Yes I agree. And I think everyone else will know that’s what he’s doing too. And it’s so embarrassing and hurtful.

Has he texted you since he’s arrived home @ShockedAF ?

Honestly just go round and discuss it. You have met each others families, I presume buy each other birthday/ Christmas gifts and use the boyfriend/ girlfriend terms.
You have every right to discuss this with him and expect a mature and honest reply. Then it is up to you how you respond.

Why are you enmbarassed? You aren't a lying gaslighting little shit

Yes it’s online. Lots of pictures. Looks immaculate. Can’t help wonder when the pictures were taken.

I think you are acting just as oddly as him. Just ghosting him after 3 years when you live next door rather than having a conversation?!

Are you actually in a relationship or just mates who shag?

If he was drawing it out just for the sex he would have told you he was selling and just moving nearby. Housessales at the moment can take forever, even cash buyers will take a few months. You're going to be neighbours for probably another 6 months.

My first thought was grow a pair and ask him but reading the whole thread does he maybe want you to come crying to him begging him to stay and getting hysterical about it?

Put a broken sofa and a fridge out the front and a massive trampoline in your back garden next to his fence