WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

[ShockedAF]

Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

I was thinking this! Has he led you to believe that he owns it and now the LL is putting on the market. He might be embarrassed at his porkies. I would send him a photo of the sign with a "care to elaborate?"

At the moment a woman has turned up. Never seen her before. She’s gone in the garage with him. Been there a good 15 mins. Maybe to collect some of the stuff he decluttered into the garage.

Going to come away from the window and get on with my life.

It really doesn't sound like you have any kind of relationship when you describe the replies you expect from him, for asking a question. Really can't imagine my DP being at all narky with me for asking a question, never mind something that's big.
What's the relationship even like in general?

How rude of him and weird not to feel able to discuss with you if he's moving.
But I think it says it all about your 'relationship'. If you step back, did you really have all that much in common other than happening to live next door to eachother?

He’s home now. He knows the sign is there.
If it’s a big misunderstanding it’s on him to (try) to explain it.
It doesn’t matter if he’s only moving half a mile away. Who doesn’t mention they are selling their house?
Also OP it could be months before he ends up moving out. Don’t you dare hide away til then,

I would buy the biggest drum kit I could find on eBay and "practise" when viewings arrive.

Until this did you feel like you had a regular relationship?

When you saw the sign and called your Mum or your best friend and said “OMG Peter had suddenly put his house up for sale without telling me” what did they say? Were they as shocked as you?

Surely you message him and say. Hey estate agent have just put a for sale sign up outside your house!

We get on very well and laugh a lot. Similar tastes in most things.

He does gaslight though. He’ll say he said x when he said y. But it’s mostly been silly things and when I call him out on it, which I do, he does eventually admit it and laugh. But this isn’t one of those times.

He isn’t usually narky. Just evasive. And tries to crack jokes and deflect. Anyway I think I need to start moving on.

Maybe you and PP were right. It wasn’t a relationship in his eyes.

Unless this is a "surprise I've won the lottery and am going to build you your dream home" then there's nothing that could redeem him, in my eyes, for not mentioning it to you. I don't care how close he might be moving, or whatever else, something as big as moving house should at least be thrown into conversation at some point.

This. He's behaving shittily and who wants to put up with that crap?

'Ask him,' indeed! I'm sure he's hoping to get a reaction from the OP.

He’s home now so he’s seen it!

It’s not going to be a few weeks though is it. It could take months for him to sell and then another 12 weeks until it goes through.
I’d wait for him to message and see if he mentions it (SO WEIRD if he doesn’t).
take your time to reply.
i would go quite grey rock and assume it’s over but I would want to see him face to face just to see him feel uncomfortable and out of curiosity for what he has to say!

Are you actually in a relationship? I mean a, going on dates, on holiday, planning a life together relationship?

Or do you just see each other because you live next door

Personally I'd play dumb and not say a word, go round there and don't mention the sign and make it so that he has to say something first. He's a massive twat op x

Might also be tempting to give the cold shoulder and just stop texting

What he gives as the answer to the question about neighbour disputes will make interesting reading.

Have you met each other’s families? Do you spend time out as a couple with other people? Or do you just hang out in each other’s houses.

Of course you'd ask.
He might not be moving away he might be moving to the next road.
Although very odd he didn't mention such a huge thing as selling his house.

I’ve been too embarrassed to tell anyone. 😔

He’s not committed is he. That’s the big issue. This feels like running away. Also from saying anything. Not very attractive.

It’s not normal circumstances. It’s pretty extreme to cover up your house move from your partner of 3 years. It basically says ‘you mean nothing to me’ so all bets are off. The OP has just had a huge shock and has been treated appallingly

Haha yes re the end!
More seriously, I can only imagine how shocked you are, you deserve WAY better than this. These actions are down to his inadequacies and nothing to do with you. There is no rush to do anything, take things at your own pace. Focus on looking after yourself as much as you can. Sending you a huge MN hug x

Yes we’ve met them all. And even hang out with his family once a month or so. Mine are further away. But they’ve met. We go out for meals and walks and gigs and things mostly at the weekend.

I do get what you mean though. Maybe it hasn’t been like other relationships I’ve had. Maybe too easy to pop round….

Is it possible that he wants to move in with you? Just a thought.....
maybe he thinks you could sell yours too and you could get a bigger house together?

I am intrigued as to what this man is going to say. Sorry OP it doesn't look good. Poor you. Hot water bottle and red wine?