WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

[ShockedAF]

Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

@ShockedAF I would ask, but I admit I'd have an attitude about it... like hey wtf are you doing putting your house on the market and not even letting me know. I probably wouldn't let him answer tbf, I'd be adding, I obviously mean nothing to you, so fine. Bye.

I would be as angry as you are about it and rightly so. I'm aghast he'd treat his GF of 2 years like this.

Lucky escape, there methinks....

Sorry you’ve been through this, OP.

But if you’ve ever fancied burning some mattresses in the front garden and buying a huge noisy dog, now’s the time 👍

Sorry you've been through this OP, what he did was truly lousy thing and I hope he moves to deepest darkest Australia. As much as it might hurt now at least you know what he's truly like and you know you'd never put up with such treatment, or any gaslighting again. Please focus on you now- do the things that make you happy, reconnect with old friends and plan a trip or two- you've had a lucky escape and it's time to plan your future 😊
Also tell all your friends and family and get it all of your chest- don't hold back telling them how awful he really was. You'll know you're healing when you get bored of talking about it.

this thread might still be here but others have been deleted is what I said.

feel about what? That she can’t ask a simple question like hey your house is up for sale why mmm more so if the relationship is 3 years into the making.

Even then the Friends part is the most important. He has now list one of the few people who would call out his BS, he isn't worth a single breath.

Well seeing as it hasn't been deleted means that MN have no problem with it.

your boyfriend of 3 years hasn't seen you in pajamas and/or with wet hair? hmmm

He didn’t apologise. He tried more gaslighting saying I would have ‘gone mad’ no matter how he told me. I told him to fuck off and keep on fucking off for that because I just don’t have a ‘going mad’ personality at all. He couldn’t see how it was so bad to see the sign go up. When I said that was ridiculous, he tried making me laugh. Didn’t work.

i mean, you indeed proved his point by going mad. so... i don't think he did anything wrong

That you "don't think he did anything wrong" speaks volumes about you!

Are you the exBF???!!

Or even better, book a viewing for his house and get a male friend to pose as your "new boyfriend" to go with you to view his house (you would be all over each other of course) and explain you that you don't want to move out of the area but you are looking for a bigger property now that you and new boyfriend are soooo in love and planning a family. 😂😂
Alternatively, if you can't face him, you could send him a "heartfelt and emotional" card apologising to him, say that you guess he has found out about your new relationship with your new man. You didn't realise that he had become so attached to you and you never meant to hurt him to the point where he had to move house! You were hoping that you could both be adults and move on and you hope he is not moving away because of you. You thought he understood it was just a casual set up. 😂😂
Two can play the gaslighting game. If nothing else you will bruise his overinflated ego!

This 💯

Oh leave off!!!

Oh for godsake, all you people nitpicking, stop trying to be clever and putting OP down. She’s not done anything weird or wrong or OTT.

If my bf had planned to move away without telling me, after tricking me into hours of unpaid labour helping him prepare the house for sale, I would feel deeply humiliated and not want him to see me looking vulnerable. I would also feel choked and would find if difficult to challenge him.

People can do horrible selfish things. Other PP have given their own experiences of similar behaviour on this thread. You may find it unbelievable; I don’t.

I've heard of two men getting international jobs and announcing their departure less than a week before their respective flights.

You are well rid! X

Not to belittle your predicament, but hope you get a lovely new neighbour, OP! Every cloud...

A prize for the stellar example of thinking the woman is wrong whatever she does.
do you have a partner? Have you ever gotten mad and think it was justified?

Effing 'ell @ShockedAF you handled it well! What an absolute, gaslighting twat and as for other posters second guessing etc. I would tell them to EFF OFF big time too! X

P.s don't buy into presenting fake boyfriend or getting people to view property - you are well rid! Please keep a record of any pertinent comms - I wouldn't put it past twat to start blaming 'difficult neighbour / psycho ex' if he has difficulty offloading plus may have an knock on effect and when you decide to sell.

Are you just 'neighbours with benefits' rather than in a relationship? It seems he doesn't regard you as an important part of his life

This! I’m questioning if this scenario is actually real?

it’s a bit extreme to jump to conclusions without knowing the facts and guess what? You won’t know them without asking.

All these people saying yes block him, why? Because he’s out his house up for sale? It’s nobody’s business but his. You’re not living together, engaged or married, you don’t share children so it’s one of your business.

take the for sale sign and put it outside your house, and tell him you're moving, before he can tell you he's moving.

Then gaslight the shit out of him and never speak to him again. Dick.

After three years if you’re living next to each other and not together and he regularly gaslights you…

why exactly are you in this relationship?

this could be the best thing that ever happens to you. Embrace it and look forward to it.

If I was writing a novel as a follow-up, the new neighbor would be a lovely woman who OP would become best friends with, and never settle for a less than stellar relationship again, because she has a great support system now.