WWYD? BF moving didn’t tell me

[ShockedAF]

Been with bf 3y.
We live next door. We see each other most days and have done for the last 2y.

Recently he’s been on tidy spree, saying he wants to declutter his life. I was over there last night seemed normal.

Today a For Sale sign has gone up. He’s at work. Photographs already online at the Estate Agent.

He’s texting as normal. I feel sick and shaky. I’ve gone ice cold.

He’s decluttering me out of his life isn’t he?

My plan is to just block him and never speak to him again. WWYD?

'Sneaky turd' sums it up perfectly. He didn't tell you because it was more convenient for HIM not to be open about the situation. Even if he did think this was a FWB situation (I'm not staying you should have guessed that), common courtesy would dictate letting the other person know of his plans. He knew exactly what he was doing.

I think he'll try to move in with you. Or simply move in! 😆

He’s a wanker. Just ditch his arse and put it down to experience

@ShockedAF

Turd is right. Sneaky? IDK if I'd use that word. I'd think it more stupidity or being completely so self-centred that it wouldn't occur to you what the polite thing to do is.

I wonder what the point is (if there is any). Is he just that self-centred or ignorant of what one might think of as 'polite behaviour'? I mean, it's just polite to tell people you know that you are moving, right?

Turd, sneak, or just plain ignorant or egotistical, I'd feel that whatever the relationship was had run its course. I don't know if I'd simply ghost & block or if I'd bother with telling him that what he did was so rude that I really didn't want to have him in my life and then block him.

Something to consider since you live so close to each other, is how long it may take him to sell. It may sell like hotcakes because he prices it for a quick sale to get some cash for his financial woes or it may be way overpriced. Maybe I'd 'friendzone' him to keep things amicable on the surface until he's gone then block him.

You should rename the contact with his phone number to "Sneaky turd".

"Twat" was an insult to twats everywhere.

Sometimes it takes a while for people to realise they are being gaslit.. it creeps up on people, the whole point of it is to make the person doubt themselves and wonder if they are over reacting, and often it is the undeniable straw that broke the camel's back that opens their eyes and makes them end things.

Very unlikely that the OP could have predicted he would do something as big as put his house up for sale without telling her and letting her find out in this manner.

Ultimately, he is responsible for his actions.

How many sides of the story do you expect to get? Do you think this sad excuse of a human being is going to come on and share his side?

It's not "odd that he didn't tell you about this in advance" - it's bloody ridiculous!! What a lowlife! They've been in a relationship for 3 years and they have lived beside each other for longer - would you not even tell a neighbour if you were putting your house up for sale, out of courtesy?

The financial problems are neither here nor there. It's leaving the OP to find out he was selling up when the for sale board went up. That's despicable. Stop making excuses. There are none.

Done 🤣👍

Are you a recent MN user? Because that's the only thing I can think of to explain your post. There's daily posts from women who put up with totally unacceptable behaviour and can't seem to extract themselves from the situation.

At least this OP realises this is a dealbreaker.

This is gold 🤣🤣🤣

Yes OP IT’S ALL IN YOUR HEAD! That’s what it is. Silly old YOU. He definitely can’t have done this, because well he probably didn’t because I don’t think it’s likely so it must be you - BEING WRONG

Exactly. There's not a (sane) adult alive whose first response to the end of a three year relationship with their next door neighbor would be "I'll just block them" 😅

If by some miracle there's a grain of truth to this, my bet is that poor neighbor has no idea he is in a 'three year relationship', and OP is a fantasist who thinks she's his Mrs because they've hung out and bumped uglies a few times 🤷🏻‍♂️

Maybe he's moving to get away from OP? 👀

I’m not. She’s acted ridiculous when she could have asked him. Whoever said it was a baby reindeer situation sounds spot on.

If only this wasn’t my life! 😞

Not sure you could make this up.

That said, other MNetters have had far worse to go through. At least I know he will be gone soon. At least no divorce or DC or having to fight for my home.

Feels a bit bleak though today.

No she didn’t.

No I’m not a recent MN user. Patronising much ?

I’m a person with common sense and a brain in my head that can see that this is nonsense.

My opinion- don’t want it ? Don’t post on an open forum

What did she actually do that was ridiculous? She mulled over some options including blocking and not asking etc but in the end had the conversation.

I know you think you’re being sarcastic, but yes actually, I think this is the truth

@Jochef you are fully entitled to your opinion and whether you believe OP or not is entirely up to you.

What I see is a woman who has come on here asking what to do because her BF of 3 years has suddenly stuck a for sale sign outside his house without so much as a peep to her about moving.

Yes sounds mad, but I've known men to do weirder things.

And quite honestly if my BF of 3 years, hell my BF of 1 year even, suddenly did that, without so much as a 'hey, I'm thinking I might sell the house' dropped into conversation my first thought would probably be 'fuck him, block the bastard'.

It certainly wouldn't be, lets have a conversation and see what he says as there must be a very valid explanation that I haven't considered as to why a man I've been intimate with and in a full on relationship with and thought we shared an actual life together has forgotten to mention this huge massive thing to me. Despite of course having numerous opportunities in which to mention it.

So I think OP's first thought of block him, is spot on.

I don't think you know the truth if it bit you in the arse.

Don't be daft.

Well you're not coming across that way unfortunately. Perception is clearly not in your skillset.

I think it's a very appropriate response, given that she didn't find out the bastard was selling up until the for sale sign went up! What is there to even say after that display?!

What a crass and nasty remark to make too! "If by some miracle there's a grain of truth to this, my bet is that poor neighbor has no idea he is in a 'three year relationship', and OP is a fantasist who thinks she's his Mrs because they've hung out and bumped uglies a few times 🤷🏻‍♂️"

That was really uncalled for!