PLEASE HELP ME

[exhaustedmum24]

My ex is refusing to return our child like normal tomorrow!! Saying he ain't bringing her back and that she now lives with him.

What do I do? Who do I call? 😩😩😩😩 someone help me please.

He's on the birth certificate and he has parental responsibility....... my mind is going mental!!

Court order exist?

What's the usual pattern of contact? Why is he saying this? For what reason

You need a Family Law Solicitor, most of the big firms in your home town will have a family law section.

Get ss involved .
Does he has agreed set days to have her or is it more informal?

No I was sorting this out, I had a middle person who was being the well middle person but she won't do it anymore because the last few weeks he's been late or too early and she has 3 children herself and it's causing her stress and agg.

He knows this and now won't return her because apparently I'll take her from him, I said he needs to sort it on his side as I have no one else too be the middle person and he's no refusing to give her back.

I don't have the money 😔

We both agreed to Thursday nights and every other Saturday and now he's saying he's not bringing her back

On what basis is he not returning her though?

Does he have correct support in place to keep her....childcare etc if he works?

Will he send her to school as normal? You could try ringing them in the morning and explain.

You van make a court application without a solicitor. You need a child arrangements order. The form is online.
He has parental responsibility can exercise this without having an order in place.

School won't get involved with this kind of thing

Haven't you posted about this before recently?

On the basis he can't get another middle person and I will 'apparently' stop him seeing her

She is 17 months old she's not in school

Use this as a start https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/form-c100-application-under-the-children-act-1989-for-a-child-arrangements-prohibited-steps-specific-issue-section-8-order-or-to-vary-or-discharge
Wishing you luck

Yes I have and now he's refusing to give her back tomorrow.

All of this mess is because of him and him wanting his way constantly. I'm soo exhausted. I was told by SS not to stop contact even though he was threatening this before and now look.

I don't have the money too and he knows this 😔

This isn't a social services situation.

You don't need a lawyer, you can do it without. You need to make an urgent application for a hearing.

She’s saying you can do the form yourself without paying a lawyer.

The police also have not got back to me in regards to a restraining order as he is not very nice to my other three children.

I've heard nothing back from the domestic abuse team that this police officer has apparently put forward for me either. I was also told by citizens advice that I shouldn't stop constant either because of it looking bad on my part.

Does he live alone? How well does he actually care for her when he usually has her? How does she react to being with him?

It says £255 before the court can process the application 😔

Who suggested a restraining order? Are the other three his? How old are they? What do you mean by "not very nice"?
sorry so many questions but we need more info

He lives on his own, he works full time but said he won’t go in, she’s ok with him but she is used to me and her siblings. He sees her once a week and twice every other week if that makes sense.

My three boys aren’t his, they are 14,11 and 8

He used to always threaten to put my son on his ass and he used to always call them names and shout and swear at them. My son’s dad had words with him about this because of the way he was towards them.