Just realised this about DH. is this normal?

[Cactustoy]

I've always looked very young for my age but as I'm approaching 50 I can see it's starting to catch up with me!

I'm 7 years younger than my DH.
I've noticed that he criticises women on the TV (never men) about their looks, weight etc..
Just last night ' who's that chunky old thing'
This morning ' God she's looking old' - said about suzanna reid, who BTW looks fantastic!

He's not someone who thinks before he speaks but I've realised lately that it's made me more aware and scared of the aging process. I'm even considering botox!
I put a new top on the other day and he said something like ' that's nice, it makes you look younger'.
Am I being too sensitive? Do other DHs do this? Do they just think it and not say it?

Pick a man on TV your own age and start bleating on about him showing his age, losing his hair etc. as for the Tana lady I'd tell him you hope his prostate doesn't play up or you'll be buying them for him.

Give him a good dose of his own medicine.

This type of thing makes my piss boil! I grew up in the most critical house ever. My mum would comment on everyone’s looks, voices etc on tv. As would my brothers. And I remember being a child and feeling so cross at it and having to bite my tongue. It’s just unnecessary. And really highlights how unhappy the person is, because a happy person wouldn’t act that way.

How old is he @Cactustoy ?

What would you really like to say to your husband when he says such things about women?

Is he an adonis?

I think you should challenge on it. See if you can have a discussion and if he will reflect on what he’s saying. Maybe he will. My husband is 70. He’s a very decent bloke and doesn’t have this response to older women at all, but in the 1970s when he was married to someone else (it came on out various conversations) that his and his friend’s wives would stay at home and cook dinner on a Sunday whilst they all went to the pub. They were then served dinner when they went back to the house. When we were chatting and this came-up, it turned out he’d never thought this was in anyway questionable. I questioned it of course, he thought about it for a few moments and agreed (genuinely) that it wasn’t right. Once his eyes were open to gender politics (in the old sense), he couldn’t not see it and became a true Feminist.

As for “the bulky pee pants adverts”, I myself always say “FFS, this is on so often the world will believe that all menopausal and beyond women are constantly pissing themselves”! Although I do think it’s great that items to help with incontinence, menstrual bleeding and erectile dysfunction are advertised on TV and are no longer hidden as if they are shameful.

Just point out to him that he is being a prick and it is upsetting you and if he doesn’t stop then you have a problem. My partner doesn’t notice if I’m three stone lighter or heavier because I’m ‘his’ perhaps he just assumes you know how much he loves you and doesn’t realise your insecurities. Or maybe he is just a big blunder cunt.

You can guarantee men that say that are no oil painting themselves.

I'd buy that he was insecure about himself, as a male, growing old, if he commented on ageing men. BUT, he doesn't. Only women. So him being insecure argument does not hold any water. The fact he is just a nasty pos, just a shallow, nasty and spiteful misogynist. Does he watch Andrew Tate YouTube clips at all, by any chance? I'd say don't breed with him, he is a pos, luckily though you are perimenopausal. My fanny would shut tighter than a banker's fist every time he made sad a nasty and hateful misogynistic comment. And I'd tell him that. He is making it so very clear what he thinks of women. To be honest, I'd ask yourself why you want to be with such a shallow, hateful, spiteful sexist misogynist who mocks womens looks. D.I.V.O.R.C.E is what I'd be looking into. I wouldn't want to associate with your husband, let alone be friends with him, let alone be married to him. He is a pig! Raise your bar and kick him to the gutter.

Don't get botox because of this shallow, sexist asshole. You don't need to change. He does. You could tell him he has to start seeing women as human beings instead of objects or you are leaving, but these attitudes are usually too deeply ingrained to change, so I'd just leave him before he decides to trade you in for somebody even younger. He's obviously a prick, so it should be no great loss.
Under no circumstances should you be altering your body to try to please this pig. It never works anyway, because men like that just move the goalposts on you.

The problem is not that the OP is not making an effort. She's seven years younger than him. The problem is that her husband is a nasty, sexist oinker with double standards about looks.

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Bet he perves on young women whenever he gets the chance 🤮

There are a few oversize ladies on TV

Who is the blonde gardener woman, used to look great, now, not so.

I always wonder what it must be like to move through the world judging people like this. What it says about your mind, and your outlook and your general personality. How miserable and mean. Fascinating really.

Yawn.

He's a pig

HTH

And you look...?

34 waist skinny jeans 👍

I'm sorry that things like that are so joyful to you.

My husband, who is several years younger than me, still thinks I'm the most beautiful woman on the planet even though we've been together for more than 40 years and I'm over 70. Because he loves me for what I am not what i actually look like.
Your bloke sounds shallow as fuck.

Btw, I am not, nor have ever been, beautiful.

You both sound lovely, @BinkyBeaufort. and beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

He sounds an absolute bore.

I'd be shopping around for a man who was more interesting to hang out with if I was you.

You know he's only going to get worse don't you?