Dating a man that doesn’t drive?

[Lifesforloving1]

Would it put you off dating a man that doesn't drive ??

No.

Yes it would put me off

Yes - sorry. If there is no health reason then absolutely yes.

Never again

DH can’t drive for medical reasons. I don’t drive because I hate it. We manage fine!

If they live in a city no elsewhere yes

It would definitely put me off unless there's a reason why he's unable to, like medical condition.

typically, yes

Although I should add, I would understand if it was for health reasons

It depends on why. Hopefully it would be for ethical reasons, of which I'd approve as it would suggest we shared values, so yes. It could be due to disability or illness, in which case still yes. It could simply due to circumstance, such as no need to drive and/or not enough money, in which case still yes.
The only reasons I might not are if it were due to having list his licence due to dangerous driving or other criminal behaviour.

No. I know loads of fantastic people who don't drive (including me!).

Neither my current DP nor any of my previous DPs have been able to drive, come to think of it. One due to disability, the others due to ethical considerations and not living somewhere where it was necessary.

Yes. Location requires it.

Not really. DH doesn't drive because of a visual impairment. We manage fine.

If it was for medical reasons and they wanted to drive, then it would be an inconvenience but not put me off them as such. We’d work round it

if they couldn’t drive because they didn’t want to, hadn’t got round to it, or had been banned. Massive turn off. It’s a basic life skill. Like riding a bike, basic cooking, etc

Although I caveat that with the fact I live rurally, and there is next to no public transport. Irregular bus, train is half an hours drive away etc and all my leisure pursuits require driving.

No

I think this is a generational thing. Lots of my young adult children can't drive. It's perfectly normal to them.

It's not a "basic life skill". That's sheer entitlement because it's become so commonplace to drive absolutely everywhere.

Not driving for ethical reasons is really understandable especially if you live somewhere it’s not needed.

but I think there is a big difference between choosing not to drive, but being able to, or being unfit to drive, and then just not upskilling yourself.

Yes. I was with someone for a year who couldn’t drive and I dumped him because I got sick of his arse parked in my passenger seat. It’s always been one of those things I won’t compromise on since that relationship.

It depends. If he lives somewhere like central London, there's not much point. But if he relies on others for lifts all the time, and/or lives somewhere you really need a car to get around, that's crap.

Yes. It would be a dealbreaker for me. Unless there's a medical reason why they can't drive. And I'll add to it further and say that they need to be able to drive a manual and to drive it well.

It would be a negative (barring disability reasons), but if they made solid plans to learn, and actually followed through, then that would show initiative.

Context is key. A man who lives rurally and can't manage to do anything? I would not date. A man who lives in the city and has no need to drive? Date

When I lived in London no it wouldn’t but now I live outside the M25 yes it would be a dealbreaker for me as I’m not being someone’s chauffeur