Dating a man that doesn’t drive?

[Lifesforloving1]

Would it put you off dating a man that doesn't drive ??

No. DH doesn't drive. He cycles for transport. He has amazing cyclist thighs from his daily travelling, without any need to spend all weekends away from me and the children doing cycling as a hobby.

If it was for health reasons then fair enough. But otherwise it would totally put me off. Where I live it just simply isn't practical. There's only one bus route, it is an hourly service and stops after 6:30pm. I wouldn't want to be permanently on 'designated driver' duty or be expected to taxi someone about constantly.

Men who flaunt flash cars are a total turn off

Totally agree. My vagina clamps shut. Give me a normal bloke with a Vauxhall Corsa any day....

No way. I couldn't respect a man who wanted ferrying around like a large child

If they had epilepsy or was VI and they were physically unable to drive-yes, no problem.

If they liked drinking and preferred being chauffeured around to driving or were too tight to pay for car costs and thought it was easier to cadge off others, then that’s a problem.

@Lifesforloving1 are you going to clarify any details?

My friends don't drive and the guy I'm seeing doesn't drive. I am fed up of being used as a free taxi service because they assume I will always pick them up and take them home everywhere, but never offer to give me anything to cover the petrol or wear and tear. It's a right pain in the arse having to do all the driving on top of commuting 60 miles a day. Don't be me!!!

@Unopenedpackofmenssocks didn't need to when he was at uni and then didn't want to learn even when we lived more rurally. He insisted we buy a house which was walking distance to his work.

It was a "surprise" apparently. More like a bloody horrible shock.

No it wouldn't put me off. I'd rather be the driver than the passenger anyway.

I'm married to a man who refuses to learn to drive. I can't even begin to describe how frustrating it is. He wants to go to all these far flung places in the UK but I'm the one who always has to drive and it's exhausting! I told him no more a few years ago and he was like fine, I'll learn to drive then. He still hasn't. Prick.

Yeah, it would be a deal breaker for me I’m afraid. I live semi rurally and having a car is essential to the way I live my life. If a partner can’t drive that leaves me to do all the driving and that’s not what I’m looking for.

i mean you have to remember that there are reasons why people don't drive! i forgot to say in my own response my husband is blind in 1 eye and going blind in the other so therefore although technically he could learn, he's no confidence.

Wouldn't put me off - I married a non-driver. I did tell him that kids were off the table until he'd got his licence though! 😅

Absolutely not, wouldn't matter what their reasons were I wouldn't want to be always the driver or always having to use public transport (which is non existent here) if we went anywhere.

The Lake District has a fab bus service. If staying in more remote places we use taxis. The last thing you want with you when going for a hike is a car.

Living in the Lake District may be different and many do need cars. But we visit frequently and don’t drive.

Oh and what you say about ambition etc. is quite offensive.

That sounds like an ideal life

A cop out excuse 😧 Let’s all fuck up the planet then ?

For me it's less about whether they can drive as to whether they are independent or would expect to be driven around. Former is fine, letter is not (as others have said, assuming there isn't a medical issue/disability)

My DH can technically drive but doesnt - passed his test at 17 then lived in London for years and never drove. We no longer live in a city but did choose our location to be close to a train station. I have a car as my job requires me to use it (I work in the community) and tbh I wouldn't want to adjust to sharing it now I'm used to being the sole driver!

The only time it is noticeable is if we do a long trip as he wouldn't be confident to share the driving, but he doesn't expect me to chauffeur him - he'd happily pay for train/taxis if I go didn't want to do all the driving.

Yes, if being totally honest it would give me the ick

That seems absurd

I never dated a man that didn’t drive. I’m sure there are lovely men that don’t drive, but that doesn’t mean you’re obliged to date them.

My DW did and we've just had our 45th anniversary.
(I can drive now).

Absolutely

No. Neither my partner or I drive and we manage just fine.

MN is weird about non-drivers in general, I find.