Dating a man that doesn’t drive?

[Lifesforloving1]

Would it put you off dating a man that doesn't drive ??

Depends. I dont drive (by choice) but i know how to get around by public transport and i dont rely on anyone to drive me around. But if they need you to be their taxi driver then i wouldnt date them

Yes.

We were down to one car or about 2 months. It meant I had to do everything- food shop, driving kids around after school. Or dh would use my car, which then meant I couldn't do what I wanted to do. We are most definitely not rural, but public transport tends to assume you want to go max 5 miles from your house, in only 2 directions. And only twice an hour.

Dh ended up needing a lift, a bus and another lift to get to work and back.

In my ideal life, I would live somewhere I could walk to work, shops and social life. But I that would cost way more than I can afford.

Yes, because I wouldn't want to do all the driving.

Not only would it be a PITA from a practical perspective, I also just find it quite unattractive if a man doesn’t have the confidence and coordination to drive. Sorry.

No, DH doesn't drive and I don't either. But we have the income to live in central London so it's never been a problem.

Depends on context. Ages ago I had a boyfriend who didn't drive and it drove me nuts that it was always me driving, made worse by the fact that he also couldn't map read (the old days before google maps on phone). He was essentially bone idle.

Do you drive, OP?

Totally agree with this. I've never found a man that either can't drive or has no intention of learning attractive.

i did.. and married him! its annoying at times, because he doesn't drink, so if we go out for a night, i drive and can't drink and he doesn't drink which seems pointless to me .. im not a raging alcoholic but sometimes it would be nice to have more than 1 glass of wine with dinner.

I kind of disagree with this. We’ve had some great non-driving trips to the Lakes, and we’re very outdoorsy people who do our best to stay away from busy areas. The bus service is pretty good in the summer, but the key is to stay in a valley with lots of good walking/climbing/mountain biking/whatever within that valley …and take bikes with you. It’s the same in other remot-ish places. Pick your base carefully, and take bikes.

On the general issue of the thread: yes absolutely. Non-issue. But I live in London so most people we know don’t drive regularly at all. Clearly would be different if you lived in a very rural area and were determined to stay there.

Why does driving a manual car make a difference?!

Completely depends on how it impacts his life, and by extension, mine. So if I like being out and about and he is limited to a mile from his house, then probably not great. But if we live somewhere that no car is not an issue, great.

Yes but I live in the country and need a car to get around or even to the nearest station or bus stop.

Again though would depend on the reason they didn't have a license. Medical or always living in a city with no need then it's a bit different.

Yes, it would put me off. I wouldn't want to be the one always driving and definitely wouldn't want to use public transport.

Yes

Yes- unless there is a medical reason.

My dealbreaker when I was dating was a non driver.

My DH has never driven due to a medical condition. It doesn't bother me. We make it work with public transport.

If he didn't drive for a reason that wasn't good, definitely a dealbreaker.

There is lots of women who don't drive I presume they are all single?

No wouldn't put me off, if they were able to function like everyone else

Yes it would be a dealbreaker for me, even if for health reasons. I don’t want to live in a city (live rurally) and wouldn’t share my life with a non driver willingly.

If DH couldn’t drive any longer that would be different as we are aging but if he hadn’t driven when we met we wouldn’t have had a first date. I need someone that can tow a horse trailer, it’s a basic pre-requisite.

Yes . I once ended a relationship when the guy I was with repeatedly failed his driving test. He also had a lot of debt. In short I felt I'd be bailing him out forever in every sense.

Yes it would put me off

Yes, dealbreaker. I've been at life stages where I haven't needed to (young in big city) but it's mostly essentially and at the very least a useful skill when travelling.

Yes. That's part of the reason I split with my last partner.

It eventually became a total pain being the one driving us everywhere, there and back (even though I enjoy driving). It created a growing imbalance in our relationship.

Why can't he drive? I couldn't date anyone who doesn't drive - too many red flags.

I wouldn’t date someone who couldn’t drive. We couldn’t easily even get to our house let alone anywhere else without a car.

Even when we lived in the city for 10 years, we didn’t own a car then for day to day, but still hired one a few times a year for day trips, random weddings in the middle of no where, trips to visit family not easily on public transport routes. And we almost always needed to hire abroad unless in the city again