Dating a man that doesn’t drive?

[Lifesforloving1]

Would it put you off dating a man that doesn't drive ??

It didn’t used to be a dealbreaker for me, until I dated a man who didn’t drive - for good reason I might add.

We lived semi-rurally so dropping him home after dates made me feel like a mother figure. Plus I couldn’t drink whereas he was happy to have a few pints whilst we were out and benefit from my ferrying of him. Not again, thanks.

Would be a deal breaker for me

Yes, it’s a very basic life skill like swimming or riding a bike etc.

Same!

Living in a city and no reason to drive: no problem.
Living rurally and being hamlet/village/housebound for no reason; yes, I would find that difficult to accept

Deal breaker.

I have lived in several countries/ towns & cities. Very few have had decent transport links. Currently back in NE Scotland and driving is a necessity. Would not be interested in being the only driver.

Dearg · Today 21:01
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Deal breaker.

Really? Jason Mamoa declares undying love then tells you he can’t drive?

Hell, that would be worthy of a bus pass for me 😁

I'm guessing Jason Momoa could afford to employ a driver.

My DH doesn't drive (he's a biker) and it's a massive pain in the bum. Moreso since having children! I have to drive us to do anything - holidays, to the tip, shopping, taking ds to playdates, visiting family etc. Everything falls down to me and I hate it. Even more annoying is that he knows it bothers me and he still hasn't learned to drive. It's a contributing factor to our marriage now being on the rocks.

@Summertimer fine for him and then he got chauffeured everywhere else. Not fine for me. He put an offer in on a house which I'd never even seen. It was only when it was accepted was I told which town it was in. I still had to drive 20 mile round trip to work and back.

Most definitely yes

Ok, you got me there… but just for Jason

And Daniel Craig 🤔

I'd never do it again. I did it once, I honestly felt like my DP was a child that I had to ferry about, anytime we went anywhere it was me driving. Always me who was the more knackered one on trips, always me having to be sober at events, always me default picker-upper if DP's train failed or whatever. Nope, not happening again.

Ok fine.

Jason Momoa is the one and only exception.

Noone else though. 😂

Depends on so many factors

• Is there a legitimate reason for not driving? Like health reason, vision impairment, etc. Or has he just never got round to learning? That could point to a set of traits I find unattractive, like procrastination and being comfortable being dependant on others
• How much is his life and our potential relationship impacted by not being able to drive? Does he take forever to get to my house? Does he always need me to come pick him up to go anywhere together?
• Does he expect others to compensate? Does he depend on others to be driven around?
• How durable is this situation? Fine now that he's a young, healthy man who can bike anywhere. But what happens when life changes? When children are involved, or he loses his job and needs to look for another one, or his elderly mother starts needing more help doing her shopping?

My brother ticks a lot of those red flag boxes. Refused to learn because a) he's a terrible procrastinator and b) it was supposedly bad for the environment. His wife however would tell me that she ended up driving him to the train station or to work most days because it was cold or raining and he didn't want to bike to work. Luckily when they wanted children she gave him an ultimatum and said she wasn't going off the pill until he had his license.

Central London or similar with decent transport - not an issue

Anywhere else - issue

Totally this. ⬆️
I know someone who years ago kept saying 'yeah when I learn to drive...' Years later still hasn't and always thinks of an excuse. It's not the fact he doesn't drive but more says a lot about the personality which is very off putting.

Yes, this sums it up perfectly.

All very well to choose not to drive (barring medical reasons) but then to expect your partner to drive you everywhere instead is completely asinine. It speaks to an attitude of entiltlement which is deeply unattractive

Men like Jason Mamoa would never be non-drivers

A little because I don't drive so that would be hard wouldn't it!! But honestly if he were a nice enough guy I'd get over it. I'm used to getting the train anyway lol..
Some people have always lived in cities or didn't grow up in a family with any money to pay for lessons.. there's lots of reasons why people don't drive. As someone who doesn't drive themselves I've done just fine in terns of travelling.