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Things a straight man can work on to make him more attractive to women

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EmmaJaneA · 28/08/2024 13:58

I had a fairly open conversation with a male friend, like myself middle aged & straight. Our relationship is, just to be clear, 100% platonic & we are both clear we want to keep it that way. He's looking to meet someone, although he's not desperate & would rather be on his own than settle. The question I was asked was what alterable factors can someone in his position work on to maximise attractiveness to women. It might sound a bit clinical but I do think I get where he's coming from. Not that he's especially deficient in any of the below but this (in no particular order) was my 1st draft:

  1. Posture
2. The energy you give off 3. Physical fitness, sleep, hydrate, moisture 4. Functionality, having your finances, accommodation etc in good order 5. Sociability 6. Well read/travelled

Any additions/thoughts?

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Catullus5 · 02/09/2024 00:40

Trolleydrinks · 01/09/2024 23:55

😁

This behaviour is acceptable because the guys are filthy rich with craggy jaws (priest probably has a secret rich relative) - for your average Joe Bloggs, recreating this would NOT be received well.

Nigel from accounts fighting with Dave the IT guy is not a good look.

Definitely different social rules if you happen to be incredibly rich and high status. Don't follow them unless you're the same class!

If you're rich you're lovably eccentric and being yourself. If you're poor the same behaviour is mad and weird.

If I started acting like one of the dramatic Made in Chelsea women (the ones living in a 10 million flat bought by Daddy) I'd probably not have many social contacts, let alone dates!

If you're midrange, looking to meet other midrange types, I think a more neutral, pleasant, basic vibe often works best..both appearance and socially.

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😀 The priest is not rich! He has character though, and he strives for integrity. Maybe that's the lesson!

maaarnie · 02/09/2024 01:26

Looking good is one thing but I can leave that all to the side if they’re charismatic, can keep a good conversation going and make me laugh. That is the most important thing.

Cantthinkofonenow · 02/09/2024 01:29

Being genuinely funny

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