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My wife gave me grief for not trusting her but I got good reasons for not trusting her. What would you do in my situation?

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braddiesel · 11/08/2024 20:25

For info. My wife and I have been married for 5 years.

Recently she gave me grief for being overly independent and not trusting her. In about 2 weeks from now, my mother will be admitted into the local hospital on Monday for a major surgery (not gonna say what surgery because it's personal) but on that very same day, I will be at work and me and my coworkers will have an important meeting that unfortunately I can't afford to miss so I won't be able to take the day off to take her to the hospital. Note: my mother and father are divorced so she lives alone. And my other brothers will also be very busy. So I called my long time best friend and he immediately said: no problems mate. I'll be there. My wife then told me that she can take her day off so she can take my mother to the hospital and look after but I told her no thank you.

My best friend already accepted to help me and my mother out so she doesn't have to be bothered by anything.

My wife gave me grief and said that I do not trust her as my life partner and that it kinda baffles her that I would call my best friend or brothers before turning to her but I responded with "yeah you are a good partner. That is why you left me stranded on the side of the road. You told me that you would pick me up from work but you forgot about me because you fell asleep.

About 5 months ago, my car broke down and needed a new clutch so I had no car to go to work. my wife has her car and even tho she would work from home, I didn't want to use her car because I don't like driving cars that doesn't belong to me so I took the bus to work while my car was getting fixed but one day, my wife wanted to pick me up from work but I told her no that I will find my way home alone but she insisted so I accepted. But I waited and waited and never showed up.

By pure luck, my best friend happened to drive by and he told me to get in the car and he gave me a ride home.

When I got home I found my wife sleeping on the couch. I couldn't believe my eyes. She woke up and profusely apologized but I laughed at her and said "yeah I am sure you sorry" the next day she apologized again and I told her it's all good.

This happened 5 months ago and she told me she apologized and she said that it's not fair that I am holding a grudge against her over an honest mistake.

What would you do ?

OP posts:
Fannyfiggs · 12/08/2024 20:16

braddiesel · 12/08/2024 15:23

I always try not to let people down if I care about them.

And about the car, I didn't always have a car. Especially when I first moved out of my mother's house in my mid twenties. I had to take buses and subways to everywhere I went to so taking public transports is not a problem for me. If my wife never offered to pick me up, I would've been fine and I would've took the bus home from work.

Overall I i know how to function independently at least 99.9 percent of the time. What makes life hard is someone offering help, you reluctantly accept it and they don't show up.

Send your AI imaginary wife over to us and we'll keep her right 👍

ilovepixie · 12/08/2024 20:43

What fecking age are you? Not old enough to be married by the sounds of it!

DearDenimEagle · 13/08/2024 09:53

braddiesel · 11/08/2024 20:25

For info. My wife and I have been married for 5 years.

Recently she gave me grief for being overly independent and not trusting her. In about 2 weeks from now, my mother will be admitted into the local hospital on Monday for a major surgery (not gonna say what surgery because it's personal) but on that very same day, I will be at work and me and my coworkers will have an important meeting that unfortunately I can't afford to miss so I won't be able to take the day off to take her to the hospital. Note: my mother and father are divorced so she lives alone. And my other brothers will also be very busy. So I called my long time best friend and he immediately said: no problems mate. I'll be there. My wife then told me that she can take her day off so she can take my mother to the hospital and look after but I told her no thank you.

My best friend already accepted to help me and my mother out so she doesn't have to be bothered by anything.

My wife gave me grief and said that I do not trust her as my life partner and that it kinda baffles her that I would call my best friend or brothers before turning to her but I responded with "yeah you are a good partner. That is why you left me stranded on the side of the road. You told me that you would pick me up from work but you forgot about me because you fell asleep.

About 5 months ago, my car broke down and needed a new clutch so I had no car to go to work. my wife has her car and even tho she would work from home, I didn't want to use her car because I don't like driving cars that doesn't belong to me so I took the bus to work while my car was getting fixed but one day, my wife wanted to pick me up from work but I told her no that I will find my way home alone but she insisted so I accepted. But I waited and waited and never showed up.

By pure luck, my best friend happened to drive by and he told me to get in the car and he gave me a ride home.

When I got home I found my wife sleeping on the couch. I couldn't believe my eyes. She woke up and profusely apologized but I laughed at her and said "yeah I am sure you sorry" the next day she apologized again and I told her it's all good.

This happened 5 months ago and she told me she apologized and she said that it's not fair that I am holding a grudge against her over an honest mistake.

What would you do ?

Having read your posts, you have one reason , in your mind, for not trusting her. Not reasons plural and not good, either. One petty little reason.

What would I do if I were you? I’d grow up, apologise to my wife for overreacting and stop being an entitled, self satisfied twerp who thinks everyone else must be perfect while sailing through life with a delusion of being perfect. I would stop abusing my wife emotionally by bringing up her falling asleep and using it as a stick to beat her with re my mother plus whatever else you will use it for in future.

And I would have my wife take my mother to hospital, since not one son will.

Failing that, I hope your wife does realise what a nasty little man you are and that she deserves better.

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