DH message. For me?

[lopdedop]

DH left home very (too?) early today to go to the nearest city (4hr journey) as he is flying abroad tomorrow. He's staying at an airport hotel. He arrived well before lunch. He needs to be at the airport at 5am (we're not in UK). Sent a message to say he'd arrived. About 2 hrs later sent a message. "I'm in room 38".
Am I over thinking? He's never sent me his room number before?
Is that strange? I'd really appreciate opinions.

Sorry, I should have read the thread first. Sorry also that it seems he’s upto no good. I’m going through the same with my now to be exH.

Glad you are prioritizing yourself OP

Another one who’s been there. Hope you’re doing ok. It’s a miserable situation to be in, but things will get better💐

Disappearing for a number of days is when they go to be with their affair partner. It’s happened to me and other friends. I’m angry on OP’s behalf at this man’s gas lighting and lies. Have the balls to end it instead of sneaking around.

The trust has gone and how dare he tell anyone your personal stuff. Glad you’re getting away for a fresh start . Good luck !

Well, I would do it for a sister, nonsense or not.

How would she risk her job by giving them extra pillows or a bottle of water? Anyway, like I said, the employee would have to be someone up for a bit of subterfuge. They can only say no. I'd have tried it!

No, I haven't read the entire thread. I have a life.

My ex and I always used to give room numbers in case of fire, phone died, etc.

How? The female employee gives confirmation, and the OP then knows where she stands. She can tell DH she knows that he wasn't alone, and doesn't have to say how she knows. She can just imply that she drove there and saw him.

OP wouldn't tell. The key is in the word "subterfuge." If a sister called me on Reception with this tale, I'd either take Room 338 some water or extra pillows, or simply keep a look out for the guest in Room 338, or look at who's staying there, and call OP with the nod. What could be simpler?

This is a woman life which seems to be imploding. Have some compassion.

You'd call her back to tell her what you'd seen and just hope she'd not tell her husband how she found out..? That's hilarious. You'd be fired on the spot for breaching a guest's privacy.

You’re not just giving them pillows though, you’re going back to OP to report your findings. That would surely be a sackable offence and no one in their right mind would agree to such a request by a total stranger.

The possibilities you mention are all ruled out by him saying ‘I’m just keeping you informed’. It’s not flimsy evidence, it’s just evidence that you haven’t grasped.

And lots of posters have suggested it could be a sex worker rather than an affair, in the context of acknowledging that that is hardly going to make it better for OP.

I’m sure the OP appreciates you pointing out that a one off session isn’t an affair. Great contribution to the thread 👏

Like I said in my message above, she could let him think she drove there. Have some imagination!

I would, for a fellow women. Who else would call with such a request except a wronged partner? Instead of taking something to the room, I could just check the guest list for 338, or else just keep any eye out for that guest and see if he's alone. OP makes out that she drove there and saw them together. Or she just refuses to tell him how she knows. It's very simple. Regardless, if there was a way to help her out behind the scenes, I would.

Well, my dad is in hospital dying of lung cancer, he has awful delirium which is getting worse, and I work full-time. So no, I don't have time to read all 18 pages of the thread. Why don't YOU have some compassion?

A crazed stalker, a jealous ex? You don’t know this woman, this ‘sister’. It’s absurd that you’d happily do the bidding of a total stranger.

Happy to be absurd.

Well as a lot of MNers say, you do you.

I know a wronged women when I hear one. I am sure I could tell the difference between an upset, scared wife and a bad actor. Call it female spidey sense.

sounds like there was alot going on before this too. like this his almost been your calirty and the "im done" moment.
and in that moment whilst a bit pissed, the next step would be for a partner to reasure and take care of you, then you back. his snarky and uncompassionate response was another dick move.
if there is no trust and no willingness to give and take when one party might be seeming a bit nervous or even irrational then its just not worht pushing for him to give you more.
spend this week getting life in order,your next steps with your move. so that whatever comes next your just carrying on, your ready.
and also try thinking of how it would be doing the next steps without him,and permanently. if this week brings relief. then that is telling you alot.
and if dread comes when hes to return, that also tells you alot.

If you cannot be bothered to read all of OPs posts then you are just posting utter garbage for no reason except to be a dick I would have thought. It's very easy to read only the OPs posts, just click the "see all" in the first post. That shouldn't be too taxing for someone as busy as you surely.

I thought she meant the entire thread, not just P's posts, which I have read. Maybe you're the one just being a dick. Posting utter garbage to be a dick? When did Mumsnet get filled with such bitchy, appallingly rude posters? Bypassed Charm School, did we?

The mind boggles that I'm supposed to know that about your father and that it has any relevance.

@NoisyDenimShaker I'm sorry your dad is so ill, but there's no need to start fighting with MN posters. You must realise that no rational person would do what you're suggesting? You keep saying you would, but in reality you would not risk losing your job for a random stranger on the end of the telephone.
Perhaps get off MN and get some rest.