DH message. For me?

[lopdedop]

DH left home very (too?) early today to go to the nearest city (4hr journey) as he is flying abroad tomorrow. He's staying at an airport hotel. He arrived well before lunch. He needs to be at the airport at 5am (we're not in UK). Sent a message to say he'd arrived. About 2 hrs later sent a message. "I'm in room 38".
Am I over thinking? He's never sent me his room number before?
Is that strange? I'd really appreciate opinions.

I'm quite surprised by all the posters coming up with 'innocent' explanations for the text, especially given his crap 'explanation' that he is just updating his wife 🙄 Its clear he is cheating. The only thing OP doesn't know is whether its an OW or a woman he's paid to be there.

No wonder so many men find it so easy to cheat.

I'd call the hotel and ask to be put through to his room....

Yeah I would too actually as you have the room number…

I think he’s having an affair but that’s coloured by my own recent experiences where my husband was having an affair on work trips

I'm sorry, OP. It really doesn't look good from everything you've written.

I don't think the hotel would "put you through to the woman in room 38".

It's either her or another woman or a prostitute.

It doesn't, my frist thoughts were "he's hired a sex worker" I'm not one

What would that achieve? We already know he is in that room. If he was in the room it's not as if an escort would answer the phone.....if someone is in the middle of sex they either won't answer it or they will answer (pause sex) and be silent until they find out who had phoned.

In an airport hotel? Where a large percentage of their clientele would be business people?

I wouldn’t rest until I found out what was going on. A 4 hour drive wouldn’t stop me.

Reminds me when I meant to text my housemates to tell my boyfriend I was out with friends if he called the landline and I texted him instead. I wasn’t cheating but he was neurotic and we were dating long distance so I just didn’t feel like the drama. Shew… I hope your husband has the same cold wave of terror that went through me when I realized the mistake I made.

Yeah I think I would have been on my way to the hotel asap.

This.

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Yes, and in that case you'd follow up your message with "sorry, that was meant for Jeff - the guy from my team - who is supposed to be coming up here to do some work but seems to be lost somewhere in the hotel". It's the defensiveness and gaslighting that makes it so suspicious.

I'm afraid I would also be tempted to get in the car

It may have been in case you need to contact him via Reception. We used to do this before mobile phones.

If they'd checked in together, he wouldn't have needed to tell her which room he was in, would he?

@GoodLordyTheExcusesWeMakeForThem It was only a thought! And anyway if it was innocent and as I said (not saying it is) BUT ever thought the message may have been sent outside the hotel or something if signal was poor.

I am not sticking up for him especially after what op has said and their situation, he sounds like a bell end but there could be many reasons for the message and not necessarily the one everyone always jumps to. Again only saying and justifying my original comment so no need to get on one with me!

Op, I'm so sorry to hear this. He sounds pretty shitty - telling his new friend private things about you. He doesn't have your back.

Any news OP?

He realised he f*cked up as soon as he hit send I suspect.... You must feel awful not being able to go and check.

Is there any way at all you can check if that female is definitely at home tonight? Sorry if I've missed something, but do you know her address?

This totally reminds me of how I found my now EX cheating, pretty much the same scenario but I had a friend in the city that could go and check things out for me, she drove past and the pair of them were smoking outside the B&B. I hope it works out better for you than it did for me

Gah sorry youre going through this. Hopefully you got some sleep ;/

If he is cheating I can't believe it's with the young woman OP mentioned. Unless they're going away together there's no way she's driving 4 hours for a quick shag in an airport hotel when he's getting up for a flight at 2am.