Out of interest, what would you do if your long term dp spat in your face?

[Namechanged11111]

Just that really? 😞

But that's confident me who's not in an abusive relationship. If I had spent years putting up with it already I would probably seek opinions from any friends I had or strangers on the internet, tell him about what others had said in another argument and let the cycle repeat until it got so bad that hopefully I looked up the freedom programme and sought some help from people who would understand and help me to get out from such a toxic relationship, and pick up my self-esteem from the floor. xxx

That behaviour absolutely crosses the line. I'd have nothing further to do with this man.

Yeh he’s already assaulted you by spitting on you

and I don’t know why, but spitting…I might be wrong and I’m prepared to be shouted down….but its so degrading, almost worse than if he had hit. He is full of contempt for you OP and that’s dangerous. Please leave

Simply abhorrent, repulsive behaviour which is only going to increase in severity. Time to call it a day, OP x

That would be immediate curtains for me.

OP, your relationship sounds toxic. Are you making plans to leave?

How on EARTH could this ever be justifiable by any logic?

HE SPAT IN HER FACE.

Great, once he's dead he won't bother you anymore, except he probably won't kill himself so just leave. Do you live together.

I’m sorry OP.
He sounds unhinged.
You need to leave as safely as you can. This will get worse.

Immediately throw him.out. disrespectful and disgusting. Sorry this happened to you.

Report it yo the police. Plus any other abusive behaviour

It IS violence. Jesus wept.

Spoke to him about it. He is sorry, but doesn’t see it on a par to being physical like punching

How he sees it is entirely irrelevant, OP. He doesn't get to judge whether his own behaviour is unacceptable.

How do you see it, particularly in light of the responses in this thread?

Of course he isn't sorry. He's repeatedly pushed and shoved you, verbally abused you and now he's spat in your face. He absolutely despises you but doesn't want to lose his punchbag.
Please don't say you're considering staying with him. One day he'll really hurt you badly, after making your life a misery.

So, where are you planning to go from here, seeing that he is clearly abusive?

Seen all you comments op.

He's vile. I'd be making a safe plan to leave. Get in touch with womens aid for support and advice. Don't stay a minute longer than you have to.

Also, eyeroll at the suicide threat. What a cliché of the manipulative abuser he is.

Imagine if he had spat in a police officer's face. Do you think they would just accept the excuses he's given?! Of course they wouldn't. What a dick he is. I'm so mad for you.

It doesn't matter how he sees it.

What do you want for the rest of your life?

If DH did that to me, our marriage would be over that very moment.

There is no way that is acceptable and you're minimising massively here. Who gives a fuck what he thinks/says. If you stay OP, next time could well be a fist.

Leave or chuck him out depending on whose home it is.

If we didn't live together he wouldn't get the chance to do it again.

It's absolutely disgusting and I'd report to the police.

I'd never want to see or speak to anyone who did that to me ever again.

Please show yourself some love and LTB.

It is disgusting, dehumanising and shows utter contempt.
In some ways it's worse than a slap across the face, because of the utter contempt it shows.

To answer your question, what would I do? I would leave.
Once your partner has spat in your face they've shown a hatred for you there's no coming back from imo.

A female friend of mine once told me that she had spat at her husband during a row. Have to say I was pretty shocked. They are still together though. It would be a deal breaker for me.

Yeah, time to get out. Spitting shows a complete lack of humanity and respect.

Sorry this is happening to you.

@Namechanged11111

who the fuck cares what HE thinks???

what do YOU think?

what has happened in your past that you think so little of yourself that you'll put up with being spat at??

he's escalating and if you stay he WILL keep escalating & may end up killing you.

youd be mad to stay.