Out of interest, what would you do if your long term dp spat in your face?

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Just that really? 😞

It sounds like he is the (profoundly) stupid one in the relationship. He could get dangerous - you should make him move out, and a police report could help in making him do that.

I’d like to say I’d leave immediately but it isn’t that easy. I would write down what happened, and how I felt, while I was still feeling it. Then I would make a plan to leave, which might take a bit of time to do. While I was waiting to leave, if I ever thought about staying I would read what I’d written about what happened to make sure I didn’t change my mind.

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I would have dumped him after the angry suicide threats tbh.

Get rid.

Get rid then. Why ask You know.

Get away from him.

Please please do not for one minute think this is your fault. No amount of shouting or yelling condones anyone else to do that to you. I would just take that as a sign of what he thinks of you. Don’t cling on to a damaged relationship thinking it’s just him with his temper outbursts. It would frighten me and i have decided in my life I will never compromise my feelings of calm and safety by excusing someone else’s behaviour.

I’d leave.

I am sorry - he is horrible. You don’t have to stay x

It would be game over. Cut and run

So sorry OP. Please get out of this abusive relationship.

Seriously? I’d try and wake myself from the dream/nightmare I was having as there is zero percent chance my dh would ever do this.
If I were you I would class myself as single from this point on and end the relationship. I would tell everyone exactly what he had done too so that they could avoid being anywhere near this disgusting excuse for a human.
If feasible I would also block his calls and texts.

I’d call up a friend/ relative and let them know what happened, and log it with the police. Then I’d ask him to leave quietly as it was over.

It's over. Don't stay with someone who hates you.

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Next time, it won’t be ‘just’ a shove. Or just a spat in your face.
Hell become more and more physical. It’s escalating.

Dont wait until he is sending you to hospital to get rid of him.

Log the incident with the police - spitting at someone is an offence, then kick him out. That is absolutely disgusting, that would be it for me!!!

If should be it for you too! Please do not take this poor excuse of a man back!!

Why do you not feel able to end this relationship?

Any physical abuse is unforgivable. He sounds like a total prick tbh.

He's working his way up to punching you.
He's got away with the pushing and shoving, the verbal abuse, and now spitting.
He's telling himself it's all your fault, and he'll be telling himself it's your fault when he hits you too.

Violence aside, spitting is a sign that he holds you in absolute contempt. Why would you stay with someone who feels that way about you? Sorry OP, I'm sure this is hard to hear.

The same thing I would do if a stranger spat in my face; call the police to arrest him for assault.

I'd also leave the relationship immediately, given he's not hit you...yet.

Get your exit plan sorted and get away

Being spat at is assault. It seems he is escalating his behaviour. Try and make a plan to get out asap

Everything about him is abusive, so sorry OP. You need to leave.

I couldn’t live with him after that. Spitting is just so awful.☹️

I didn’t respond (the flouncing out with threats of suicide every time he has a temper are common).

That one would have had me making plans to leave anyway. I can't be doing with drama queens.