DP has been a twat (Content Warning)

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My DP who I have been with for 4 years has put his thumbs into my eyes when I asked him if hes been seeing his ex...who , by the way, has constantly been messaging him.

Last year I suspected something as he was acting weird and kind of mocking me after he had a drink.
So, I told him my gut was telling me that he had been messaging her...well he went fucking mental and punched me on the face causing me to have , what the hospital said was a deep zycoma (broken cheek bone)
I never reported him and just forgave him as at the time I just thought he was angry at my 'paranoia'
I had to have an operation to put my cheek bone back, basically plastic surgery! I also had to have a procedure where they go in from the eyebrow bow to fix the cheek bone.

Anyway, fast forward to this year and we have been really happy, but I still suspect the ec is in the picture and he's been sneaking meetings with her...

I am in no way a paranoid or jealous person. I'm not the sort of person who will ever just assume things. But my gut has been off, and anyone who has had the git feeling will know exactly what I mean.

Now here is the issue...my god would I just love to kick him out as everything is in my name , but I totally rely on his money, that is another thing he said "I wouldn't give you all my money if I was having an affair"

One more thing...
He has a tattoo on his back saying that she is the love of his life forever. When I ask him to remove it he lies and says it's just some random writing. So wont remove it. What are your views , please be nice as I am in bots after tonight and I appreciate everyone's advice.

Please please don’t go alone.

He's only been in your dc lives for four years, they suspect he is not all he seems and was responsible for your injuries. I doubt they really adore or trust him, more will play along to keep the status quo possibly even out of fear for repercussions. Contact Womens Aid for advice as to how to reclaim your home and safe space.

The other woman is really not the issue here. I think you are in shock. Please, please seek support. Try Women's Aid.

Violent men get violent when confronted, regardless of whether they're cheating or not.

FGS have some respect for yourself and leave.

"a twat"? That's what you call a man who punches you in the face and breaks your cheek bone? I'd have stronger words than that for him.

The ex is irrelevant, whether he is seeing her is irrelevant, whether the punch was yesterday or last year is irrelevant, get the hell out of there.

You need to call the Police before you go home OP.

Sounds like you need a Non-Molestation Order as well.

You can sort out benefits or work afterwards.

If you go home alone today it might be the last trip you ever make.

Christ on a bike - what have I just read?

How can we help you to leave this abusive man before he kills you?

Wtf did I just read??

I'm taken aback by the language of the title. Husband has been a 'twat' to smash her face and put her in hospital needing surgery. That's like saying Hitler was a 'bit of a silly billy'.

This was a very sad read. It's almost as if OP is more concerned about the cheating?

You need to separate the cheating from the domestic violence.

The cheating is the least of your worries. He beats on you. I think that should be your motivation for leaving him forever.

I pray you find the strength to leave OP.

How can we help you to leave this abusive man before he kills you?

If she's going back to her house this morning in her own it might be too late.

He has done that so he has full control over you. He is dangerous and will never change!

Run as fast as you can and report him to the police.

I cannot say what I want to say, because I would be banned.

You have put a monetary value on your abuse. The price of your death will not benefit you.

He needs to leave your home, and you to call the police in order to get him out. Do not try to do this alone.

Leave and don't look back. It won't ever stop he won't ever get better the relationship will never be what you want it to be. Sod his money your a boss ass B and can do it on your own you don't need a peace of shit to hold you down and beat on you I was in your shoes at one point it took 9 years to leave but boy did it feel great when I did x

"Been a twat" implies he's forgotton to take a bins out a few weeks on the trot. This man smashed your face up and could have blinded you. How could you stay and claim to be "happy" with someone who severely injured you?
It's genuinely beyond my understanding. But you need to understand it before he kills you or you find the next one who is the same.

OP this man is going to kill you. Get him out of your life. Don't be alone with him ever again. You need to tell the police what has happened. You need to tell your adult children what has happened. You need protection.

You have a home. You'll work out the finances. You can't stay with him for money. It's like he's buying the right to abuse you.

This man needs to be in prison with the rest of the woman-hating psychos.

Go back to the house when he’s out and change the locks. If he has no right to be there, get him out asap. Please don’t put up with this violent abuser any longer.

We're so sorry to hear you're going through this, OP.
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I hope you’re ok, OP, and didn’t go home alone.

He will blind you next time and enjoy doing it.
you need the police, call woman’s aid, change the locks, get a restraining order, tell the truth and get therapy.

I fail, totally, to understand why you're still with a wife beater? The twisted evil self-obsessed shit broke your face, poked your eyes , treats you like filth. How could you possibly forgive him?

Send him packing to his ex and find some way of getting your own money. WOMEN SHOULD NOT HAVE TO BE RELIENT ON MEN.

Your DC don’t adore him OP, let’s get that one out of the way.
I can see you’ve left but really think about this - would you rather get your face pummelled than work and pay your own bills? He’s a cunt.

Jesus Christ, woman, this ex is the least of your worries. You're with a violent abuser. Please get out of this situation before he actually kills you.