Boyfriend guilt tripping me for money screenshots

[Banana1979]

My boyfriend is guilt tripping me for money
I have put a screenshot of part of the message
Im in my overdraft and I told him I cannot transfer money from an overdraft to him. I am sick and tired of him asking it’s every other day I’m giving him a tenner or £20
he has told me today he’s starving
I offered to send him an Amazon shop about £15 worth of food until he gets paid next week
and he’s being nasty about it. I’ve said to him I have a child to look after and a lot of rent to pay I do get some universal credit towards the rent but not all as I work
. However I don’t understand why he is responding like it’s my fault I cannot send him money
I’ve already sent him money this month and I’m sick and tired of it and I’m ready to let him go. I am sick of this. I feel like I am being used for money he doesn’t do anything for me he doesn’t take me out didn’t buy me a birthday present asks for travel when he comes to see me it’s about £16 both ways tube and bus
he also smokes and is childless. He’s loving and caring when he comes to see me, but I am pretty fed up of him now.
i have a 9 yo DD
I don’t even know what to say to him, because I’m terrible at ending things, because for some reason I find it difficult to let people go even when they are terrible to me. My dad left when I was younger and I used to smell his T-shirt as a kid and hang onto his clothes, wondering when he was ever going to come back I don’t know if it’s linked to that,the way but I definitely need some kind of fucking help here.
my daughters, father also left me suddenly after 13 years, 3 years ago to go and be with a 21 year old
when I try to end it, he says he’s going to go missing . If I don’t sending money, he sends me messages like this and ignores me all day. I know it’s continue. I just need help to fucking drop him. I’m sick of being treated this way. I’m very kind and loving person. Everybody tells me this. I’m 45 and probably stuck with horrible people because I feel like nobody will want me at my age, most men my age, want somebody in their 20s. I just feel sad

It's the smoking. It's very aging

56??? Why is he talking like a teenage wannabe roadman? He’s far too old to be begging for money 🙈 does he have a job?

He’s probably so stoned he can’t remember his own name let alone how old he is 🤣

Op won’t be back. Until November when she will start a new thread.

He might even be older judging by the 1979 in the username if I'm gonna be paying I want a 6'4 younger attractive stud not a 56 year old who can't even type an understandable text lol 😂

He's a prince! What attracted you to him? It's better to be unhappy alone than fucking miserable with an abusive arsehole who's an illiterate, nasty arsehole. Dump him and spend your energy and money on you and your DD.

Forget the sponging and worry about hua ability to be easily wound up. Get rid.

He wants money, probably for drugs. He's a waste of your time. Just get rid FFS.

Please dump him
He doesn't respect you. Keep your money for your child
He is literally taking food out of your child's mouth

Don't shame yourself for ''coming across needy''. YOu have the right to ringfence your own nest and not let a vulture come into it and plunder it.

I'm a single parent and I wouldn't give a man anything that should be going towards my kids. I agree with the others that it's OK to be single! I only ever dated one man, he wasn't rich but he would have given me the shirt off his back if i'd asked, which i certainly didn't but no way would he have been so shameless as to ask me for money knowing i had kids. He wasn't perfect mind you and it wasn't working so i ended it and i'm single again and that's ok

This 😂

‘I’m going to send him a text with the details of his local mental health organisation. I’m so sorry I’ve come across as a needy person I am quite depressed so it doesn’t help.’

No.
Stop pandering to this useless exploitative git.
Send him NOTHING - no money, no goodwill, no helpful suggestions, send him nothing. I take that back, send him a txt msg that says ‘Fuck off leave me alone. You are a mean sorry excuse of a man. Do not contact me again.’ Block him across all social media. Do not tolerate him turning up anywhere you or your children go.

Yes, you are a bit needy & this shows - this is OK to be so honest about yourself, take this insight & work on strengthening yourself & build your resilience. If it is just your & children for some time, then that is fine.

What is NOT OK is for him to exploit anybody who is vulnerable & needy (& their family) - he is a nasty piece of work & I have not doubt that he has long form in these matters, how else did he get under your skin so easily?

Take your own advice & kindness - that he has no right to - & make contact with very MH organisations that you recommend. Please make sure that you get the help & support that you need.

Is your depression being treated by your GP or local MH Trust?

Wouldn’t have anything to do with this illiterate imbecile.

Basically this is the latest thread from the OP that follows the same pattern

OP - My bf keeps taking money from me I don’t know what to do

The internet - dump the scrounging fucker

OP refuses to engage, totally ignores all the advice carries on throwing cash at the clown

3 months time new thread same story, Same responses, same lack of action from OP

Rinse and repeat

Instead of buying him food get yourself the book ‘women who love too much’. You need to get out of this relationship.

An able bodied man is scrounging off you. He has money for fags I imagine and did he drink /go out last night? Why doesn’t he go get a bar job? Or additional agency work? or a cleaning job? It’s what we did as skint students or skint 25 year olds!

No doubt it’s beneath him to go get an early morning or evening part time job and he’d prefer to sit on his backside and scrounge off a woman.

What are you getting out of this relationship? What are you hoping the future will bring?

Drug money? Alcohol?
Cut him off, block him on everything. Hope he doesn’t have keys to your house.

What a piece of shit for a human

You are a lousy parent for not putting your child before this useless cocklodger OP.

Stop whining, get rid of him or don't come back here and start yet another thread with exactly the same shite.

You're a disgrace.

Brutal yet truthful lol

Haven’t read all responses, but OP did you say you even paid his fare for visiting you?
I would suggest that you are not the only one. You live conveniently (for him) at a distance. I bet there are others like you.

Ok, you need to find your dignity.
Set yourself some standards.
You are worth more than this piece of shit.
Your children deserve much much more than to ever have anything to do with this man.

It's good he hasn't moved in with you or he'd be even worse to deal with. If he can't pay to travel to see you then you never have to see him again.

Yep prioritising dick over kids is a common theme in MN but this one is probably the lowest bar I’ve read.

The poor poor daughter. As another PP said if I knew the OP I’d be calling social services

He's a waste man. You know that.