Boyfriend guilt tripping me for money screenshots

[Banana1979]

My boyfriend is guilt tripping me for money
I have put a screenshot of part of the message
Im in my overdraft and I told him I cannot transfer money from an overdraft to him. I am sick and tired of him asking it’s every other day I’m giving him a tenner or £20
he has told me today he’s starving
I offered to send him an Amazon shop about £15 worth of food until he gets paid next week
and he’s being nasty about it. I’ve said to him I have a child to look after and a lot of rent to pay I do get some universal credit towards the rent but not all as I work
. However I don’t understand why he is responding like it’s my fault I cannot send him money
I’ve already sent him money this month and I’m sick and tired of it and I’m ready to let him go. I am sick of this. I feel like I am being used for money he doesn’t do anything for me he doesn’t take me out didn’t buy me a birthday present asks for travel when he comes to see me it’s about £16 both ways tube and bus
he also smokes and is childless. He’s loving and caring when he comes to see me, but I am pretty fed up of him now.
i have a 9 yo DD
I don’t even know what to say to him, because I’m terrible at ending things, because for some reason I find it difficult to let people go even when they are terrible to me. My dad left when I was younger and I used to smell his T-shirt as a kid and hang onto his clothes, wondering when he was ever going to come back I don’t know if it’s linked to that,the way but I definitely need some kind of fucking help here.
my daughters, father also left me suddenly after 13 years, 3 years ago to go and be with a 21 year old
when I try to end it, he says he’s going to go missing . If I don’t sending money, he sends me messages like this and ignores me all day. I know it’s continue. I just need help to fucking drop him. I’m sick of being treated this way. I’m very kind and loving person. Everybody tells me this. I’m 45 and probably stuck with horrible people because I feel like nobody will want me at my age, most men my age, want somebody in their 20s. I just feel sad

100% just dump him

He brings absolutely nothing to this relationship - take take take, nasty, illiterate, ungrateful, mardy, grumpy...

Get him out of your and dd's life

"This is not working, I wish you well in the future"
Block

Just read some of your other posts. "Relationship" of less than a year and you've already given him 100s if not 1000s. You know he wants cash to buy weed. You're a mature woman and a mother. Again, you don't live together so no problem extricating yourself.

Sorry OP, you are not kind, you are behaving in a weak and foolish way and the only person who can do anything about it is you.

This may seem harsh but I think it's what you need to hear, OP.

You are allowing yourself to be royally shat on. Do you really think in a normal relationship that people put their hand out for travel costs?! Or beg for cash every day?

i also agree that your DC is missing out because of it. I bet if you added up all of those tenners and twenties you'd have more than enough for a week away with your little one.

A man at any cost is NOT the way to live your life.

We've never met you and we know you deserve a thousand times better. Time to pull your socks up and stand up for yourself.

I'm beginning to feel the same. There isn't a single reply on this thread saying that she should stay with him, and there wasn't on the last one. And there's no real engagement with the replies.
Next thread somewhere around the beginning of September?

Get rid of this vile man.

Not one penny of my money goes on enabling someone to smoke. Not one penny. You have a daughter - put her first and dump this loser.

Get your finances under control by not giving any money to anyone else. Focus on your DD and you. Start seeing your overdraft shrink as you hang on to your money. Once you’re straight, then try to save. Set a goal - eg an affordable holiday, and put what you can afford into a savings account. And never waste money on some bloke ever again.

I’m sorry if this is too blunt - but you do not need a bloke in your life. You need financial security. In his case the two don’t go together as he’s using you. He’s a leech.

You know being single is an option, right? And it sounds like a better one than this.

Tell him to find another meal ticket and block him.

Dump him. Now. Firstly because he’s a scrounging lazy selfish twat who can bloody well look after himself. Secondly because you need to prioritise feeding and housing your Dd rather than this jerk. Thirdly, because the way he talks - jeez! That’s reason enough without the first two major factors.

No!! He's 56? I am truly shocked. I thought he'd be about 25

He is beyond being a loser and going missing would be a really, really good thing and surely you've realised the reason he is refusing an amazon food order is because he doesn't want food, he wants money for drugs and fags

Honestly, any man is not better than having no man

Or in a language he would understand:

tsovr

I have just noticed that you have been posting on here about the same guy back in March, yet somehow you are still with him? You know he’s spinning you a line to get money out of you, and has been since you got together with him earlier this year.
I am unable to work atm as I am disabled, I have a chronic condition that makes working impossible right now. Although UC isn’t exactly generous, the disability rate is just about liveable if I budget carefully. So either he has enough and is wasting it, or he is on the UC basic rate which a mouse would struggle to live on. If the latter is the case then he has been assessed as fit to work, although I can’t think who would be crazy enough to employ him! Either way his financial situation really isn’t your problem. He has put you in debt yet is still demanding more. I think you know that you need to take better care of yourself and your daughter. He is an awful human and you and your daughter need to bin him without delay. Remember that everyone you have a relationship with also has a relationship with your daughter, even if it’s an indirect one. If your daughter was grown up and had a boyfriend like this what would you tell her? Are you happy for this man to be your daughter’s life now? You aren’t happy yourself, but there’s something you can do to make both your lives better straight away. Bin him! And if he starts threatening to hurt himself tell him to hurry up and get on with it! Here’s a tip, you block him on everything and then if by some minuscule chance he does hurt himself you won’t know a thing about it. You are not responsible for his behaviour in any way. But I guarantee it’s an empty threat. xxx

I thought he worked because OP mentioned lending him money until pay day? If not, he's gone even further down in my estimation, if that's at all possible

He might mean universal credit day

Suttin wiv u

🤣🤣🤣

Op if this is real, dump him. He's an abusive loser.

It’s interesting, but I’m seeing this is becoming a popular pattern lately: self entitled younger man with mummy issues dating older woman and leeching on her. I very recently broke up with one of these “species” who seem to think they’re some gods gift because they’re 10 years younger and you should be greateful for his “company”. These types seem to be in the market for a sugar mamma. single mother, over 40, with money and her life together is usually their prime target. Every time I go into a dating app I get all
these male sugar babie wannabes much younger than me. Must be a trend?

Then Christmas when she can’t buy her dd any presents because she’s handed all her cash over to loser boy to spend on gear

Please please get rid of him. Dump him, block him and change locks / threaten to call the police if he tries to approach your home. What he does to himself is on him, nothing to do with you, disgusting freeloader.

You do not need a man. You need to learn to love yourself, respect yourself and find some good in your life. Seek support for your depression, find what nourishes you and keep doing those things.

He was 56 wasn’t he? So 10 years older.

He's 56!! She's not even paying for a youthful sexy leech lol

This cretin is nearly 60 and expects a single mum to bankroll his cannabis habit rather than feed her daughter

You said in May that he was 43, how has he aged 13 years since then? Are you making this shit up?

Will he be 65 in November then?

Ah so all of this is bollocks?

I was scrolling back trying to see if that's his age. If it is, I'm even more repulsed. It's teenage waster behaviour.

I couldn’t be with anyone who wasn’t literate let alone texts like a 13 year old wanna be gangsta.

Don’t bother with the mental health issues. Just end it! His problems are his to solve. I’m a terrible procrastinator but over the years I’ve taught myself to just make a decision and ACT on it. Just do it and do it now. Then please look into counselling for your own issues. Get help with resolving your past and improving your self esteem so you will make better choices going forward.

Oh boy… I must have misread OP’s post and thought he was one kind a of a stud 10 years younger 🤣😂🤣 so he’s a much older than her?

oh boy, this is much worse than I thought 💭