Husband went to brothel says he’s innocent

[Hesatwat]

Husband has admitted he went to a brothel while on a lads holiday and that he didn’t realise it was a brothel and he just sat on the slot machines gambling. Said brothel doesn’t advertise slot machines but after scouring comments online say there are a couple in there. He is outrightly denying doing anything. He’s never cheated before. Says him and his mate just went to gamble. Says there were no women in that room. I want to believe he’s telling the truth but honestly how dumb can I be to stay with him now? Just to add he didn’t tell me I found out he had taken a taxi to the exact location of brothels with nothing else in the vicinity. Anyone else dealt with similar? What would you do? He is quite convincingly denying everything

I'd get an STI check and kick him out.

Yeah, I mean if you want to play slot machines then the obvious place is a brothel 🙄.

"the exact location of brothels with nothing else in the vicinity"
Why the hell did they take a cab there then?

i did say that. He could have gone anywhere else but there!

Does he think you came down in the last shower?

How did it come up? Did he just offer up this info unprompted or did you hear it from elsewhere and confront him?

I found out about a taxi ride from his hotel to the brothel and back. He was there about three hours

What is your gut telling you?

For god's sake OP he's obviously lying. Get an sti check and tell him to leave.

Ah I see. I’d be really really suspicious OP. I’d probably get him to swear on the kids lives that he didn’t do anything or something over the top to see what his reaction was and go from there.

It’s a bit mixed up. He’s maintaining it but he knows cheating is an absolute deal breaker and he’ll lose everything if he admits it so he will probably never be honey if he has. He is a gambler. He’s also a bit dopey. But… why would you go to a brothel when there are proper exciting casinos near your hotel?

So he went to an area where there is nothing but brothels, to gamble?

Come on OP, if nothing else how can you want to stay married to someone who clearly thinks you're that thick?

He got a taxi there, so didn’t just wander in to somewhere that looked like a gambling place only to find it was, shock horror, a brothel.

It’s up to you of course but I wouldn’t be taking my chances that he’s somehow telling the truth. Once this stuff starts my experience is that it continues and escalates. If you’re in doubt you could look at how much money was spent there or withdrawn in cash.

If you were to stay consider what you’d want the future to look like for your trust to build - no lads holidays, shared banking if you don’t already, shared locations on phones etc. However, having gone down that route I can say it doesn’t give you peace of mind, isn’t a relationship I’d want to be in & doesn’t do anything to stop them from doing it again.

Swearing on anyone’s lives does not mean a thing.

His excuse for being there is original to say the least. Sounds like a lie.

Love can be really blinding though can’t it? You want so badly to believe it isn’t true when the reality is staring you in the face

He withdrew 400euros the day before in cash. It’s cash only. But so are casinos usually

Yuck. It's a really basic, scummy thing to do even if he wasn't engaging in services. I think you should make HIM get an STI test.

Was he in Vegas?

No Europe. Won’t say where as quite outing

Oh come on. Nobody goes to a brothel for 3 hours to play slot machines, I doubt a brothel would even allow this! They’re there to make money at the end of the day.

You know what he did OP. I’m so sorry.

Sorry just saw your update. He would lie and he’d lie on his kid’s life if he meant it would all go away. Mine swore on everything & made a very convincing liar. You can’t trust promises and swearing on things, you have to look at the facts as you know them & make a call from that. I would be getting an STI check as others have said also. Sorry you’re going through this, it is painful & life shattering I know.

At the very least he supports the trafficking of women and girls by setting foot in the place. What a revolting specimen. This would be a deal breaker. Kick him out.

I think you've answered your own question OP. There is nothing online to indicate that there are slot machines there. So why go?. He got a taxi to a brothel, further away than casinos, on the off-chance that there was a slot machine there? It makes no sense. You could have a look at his phone, I think it's unlikely that he won't have mentioned to the mates he went with, and you might find some search history as well. But I don't think there is much point.

Oh god I know this was actually my first thought. It’s a horrible exploitative industry

3 hours and 400 euros is a lot on slot machines.