Feel really hurt and used

[roses321]

I don't think this is anything new to be honest but I just wanted to vent on here.

I've been single for just over a year, I haven't slept with anyone or bothered with trying to pursue a relationship, but I met this one guy recently and he seemed great. He said all the right things, seemed to really have a good set of values and was extremely respectful.

Long story short, I ended up going home with him on Saturday night and we slept together. I left on Sunday morning and he did text me, but barely, and it was nothing to do with the weekend we spent together or anything else. It was about things in the news or TV shows he was watching.
By Sunday night I kind of felt like shit, and I felt quite used even though there was no reason to feel that way - I'm a grown adult, I made a choice, and I went into it fully aware that he might tell me he didn't want to see me again. I would have been disappointed, but I could have handled it.

What I didn't foresee at all, was him just NOT addressing it, not saying anything, not giving me any indication of whether he wanted to see me again, or even acknowledging that it had happened.

I decided that I didn't have anything to lose, so I laid my cards on the table and told him I had a lovely time with him, thought he was a great guy, and I had fun etc.

The response I got made me really mad. Literally not even an acknowledgement of anything I just said, just "oh I had a hangover yesterday and felt shit" (we went out drinking) and then a "anyway got to go to work, chat later".

I told him that frankly chatting later wasn't necessary. He then followed up saying he found my earring on his bedroom floor and I said don't worry just bin it. He sent me a laughing emoji and just an "ok".

Excuse me but WTF. Is it too much to expect someone to behave like an actual adult and not just run away from acknowledging that yes, we slept together and just be honest and upfront if you don't want more? I'm really fuming. I feel so angry about it and utterly suprised since this is NOT what I expected him to behave like, it is completely out of character with how he presented himself, completely childish and I have just decided to not utter one more word to him, as much as I want to verbally bite his head off, I know that it'll do me no good whatsoever so I won't bother.

Seriously though WHAT THE HECK? You dont' have to want a relationship with someone to behave like a respectful human being ffs.

To be fair that is actually quite an amusing thought.

I wouldn't say i'm in fury, it's Wednesday and in reality I have eaten several dinners, gone to the gym, gone to work, gone to meetings, driven to and from work, done some gardening, gone out with friends, updated this thread and continued watching "The Boys" on Amazon Prime. I also fell up the stairs earlier which was a bit annoying.

My hurt feelings and frustration were sort of limited to Monday, but then the post took a turn because I happened to mention his manhood and it became a rather amusing thread so I carried it on. I've kept updating on the messages he's sending because it's kinda fun.

By no means am I trapped in a room padded with egg boxes alongside a single internet connection and a box of tissues to console my undying grief over the situation and protect myself from harm while I throw myself at the walls and scream uncontrollably.

I was "a bit annoyed" and apparently as the owner of a vagina that = absolute unadulterated rage in the eyes of people who are shocked to see an angry woman.

I mean c'mon:

Woman is angry about the fact man did not clearly communicate after sex despite having done so previously. Is she an unhinged nutcase? We'll hear more on this at 10.

I'm not sure what is more bothersome, women lambasting other women over emotions, or Mr CCD continuing to message me like an automaton.

That one has been used, please think of something else.

If your name is anything to go by you DEFINITELY haven't....for a while.

Won't happen, and yes most likely they absolutely are. I deserved it right?

Spot on! You are absolutely right on this.

Quite possible.
My attitude is go and do better dude... i fucking dare you!

@roses321 you shagged a bit of rough who wasn't very impressed with you hence your rage. He'll probably find someone who in his opinion is better than you. Looking at some of your responses here you could do with working on your social skills.

With a guy like this, if he does end up ‘settling down’ with someone, the wife or partner will be on a website like this complaining that she does all the physical and mental load, and her ‘d’ H keeps quitting jobs or worse, won’t get up off the sofa to even get one.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 fucking hell!! Good luck to that woman - she’s gonna need it with a loser mummy’s boy who sofa surfs 🤣🤣

yep, it’s never a good thing when Brad Pitt dumps you, but when “moms boy in the basement” dumps you.. hmm… that’s when the ego takes a beating. I believe this thread is mainly about that.

Is it though?

I'm not sure when he dumped me? I'm the one not replying to HIS messages? This is going slightly wonky in terms of the rails right now because that's not what happened is it?!

Or are people just turning into bullies now becuase they don't like me answering back?

Can we just get back onto making jokes about his cock please? That was a hoot. This is a bit less of a hoot, it's rather a bore seeing grown women picking on ONE other woman who got let down by a guy.... It's a little bit shitty really isn't it?

He appealed to @roses321 who despite her protestations is raging that he's not interested.

Good point!! I've already experienced THAT kind of thing so I should actually be quite happy about this.

Please do show me where exactly I am raging (that is NOT posted on Monday).

I'm also unsure of where the basement came from.

Most British houses don't have basements??? Are you making up this story now or am I??

Shall we make it a manor in the English countryside with a huge basement, pinball machine, pool table, fuck it let's add a swimming pool as well.

So there was me in my white dress... all innocent....expecting marriage the very next day....when out comes this HUUUUUGE....

@samanthablues so if it was you who sent a message to someone to tell them how you feel/ how you enjoyed time together and they respond talking about TV show, weather or neighbours cat would you think that they are level headed ?

She's not asking for poems and roses or declarations of never dying love ...just to fecking acknowledge the fact they had sex and somehow address her message? what's wrong with saying "thanks for your message I'd like more time to get to know you" its not rocket science

No idea... he's been in South Africa most of his life.

I doubt it's that low, I mean that would be a right waste wouldn't it!

@PreviouslyBannedPoster Do we know what his body count is?

Why would you want to know? What if you don’t like the answer? And most important: who cares?

Why are you still here?

Thank you! so glad SOMEONE gets it.

We already know he's not Mr Fucking Darcy.

Because it’s my day off and I’m done with my laundry and admin.