New partner won't wear a condom

[Nofruitscones]

Recently started seeing a lovely man ♥️ Met through a mutual friend and hit it off instantly, despite me never wanting to get involved with a man ever again.
Never thought I'd change my mind but gosh he's totally amazing!

We have met a few times now and it's all been lovely and have discussed progressing our friendship and moving things along... 😉

However... he is not keen to use condoms 🙁 He's been married a long time but says don't have sex and I believe him. I really feel like I want to insist on condoms though but oh my goodness, I have proper caught the feels and WANT him!

What to do MN?

You are the OW op, if he cheats on his wife he will cheat on you.

Op this won't end well please don't sleep with him. You are going to be heartbroken AGAIN. He belongs in the TRASH

What if he's carrying a disease. A sheath is essential until you have ascertained the man is clean.

' he's totally amazing '

NO he is not

he is MARRIED ! end of. full stop.

because he is totally amazing you are prepared to even consider his no condom wants

REALLY ?!!!

One giant, throbbing red flag.

You go bareback and the feels won't be all you're catching.

So many batshit threads recently.

Being charitable, is there any chance that the OP isn't too good with language and she's mixed up her tenses or autocorrect has?

This would only make sense if she meant he WAS married and hadn't had sex for a long time in the marriage.

Meaning he's now widowed or divorced.

Aww go for it hun u only live once, and don't worry about the condoms just risk having a baby it'll be absolutely fine xxx

What a load of shite.

You are much more generous of spirit than I!

Please don't start a relationship with a married man unless he is formally separated or at the very least the wife knows & has agreed to an open marriage. A man that pursues a relationship out with marriage is a cheat & in most circumstances using the 'other woman' for sex. If you are comfortable with this type of arrangement go ahead but usually it ends up in anger, hurt & tears.

I wondered the same briefly. When I saw we were eight pages in without her coming back to correct us, I lost my sense of wonder.

One must always strap it up before one slaps it up.

That would be too much to ask, surely...

Well I’d add my comments but it seems that the op has long gone.

Is this for real?

You know he's married, won't wear a condom and yet still continue to have sex with him?

What to do MN?

Hang your head in shame and get some morals.

is that a direct quote from Emily Post? I read it in such a posh voice!

Go back to swearing off men until you have worked on your self-esteem. You deserve better. His wife deserves better. Tell your 'mutual ' friend to talk some sense into you.

Maybe give the lovely man's wife a ring and ask about the sex and condoms.

If he's so lovely I'm sure he will have told her all
About your lovely new relationship and indeed confirm they are not having sex.

No condom and married, what a catch he is!

What to do?

Not fuck him, obviously.

It's pretty simple. No condom = no sex.

Being married is the other massive reason not to shag him, of course, but even if it was an open marriage, his wife knew and didn't mind blah blah blah, it would still be no condom = no sex.

Boring....