New partner won't wear a condom

[Nofruitscones]

Recently started seeing a lovely man ♥️ Met through a mutual friend and hit it off instantly, despite me never wanting to get involved with a man ever again.
Never thought I'd change my mind but gosh he's totally amazing!

We have met a few times now and it's all been lovely and have discussed progressing our friendship and moving things along... 😉

However... he is not keen to use condoms 🙁 He's been married a long time but says don't have sex and I believe him. I really feel like I want to insist on condoms though but oh my goodness, I have proper caught the feels and WANT him!

What to do MN?

Oh behave

It's incredibly disrespectful for a man to refuse a condom in a brand new sexual relationship. Oh, but it's ok because he's married?! But doesn't fuck his wife...but cheats on her readily clearly?
You say you fancy him like mad so I won't say don't go there, but insist on a condom. Your health is at stake here.
Plus he's hardly boyfriend material if he's fucking married.

🙄

'We're just together for the kids'
'We're more like housmates'
'We don't have sex anymore'

Welcome to the lying bullshitters guide to infidelity. Page 1.

OK so, if they aren't shagging anymore, go round there and meet her. Suggest you all have lunch. If they're just living together for the kids, why can't he have a girlfriend on the side? If it wouldn't bother her, why can't you pop in and say hello? And confirm that all he says is true?.

He's taking you for a mug.

And honestly he is horrible if he's suggesting to you, someone he's barley met, that he doesn't want to wear condoms. What an arsehole.

Has chacer and potentially, abuser written all over him.

I suggest you read up on red flags and love bombing.

And, visit his wife.

He's married and what you are struggling with is the fact that he doesn't want to use condoms??

However... he is not keen to use condoms 🙁 He's been married a long time but says don't have sex and I believe him. I really feel like I want to insist on condoms though but oh my goodness, I have proper caught the feels and WANT him!

Get yourself a rabbit

@Nofruitscones new partner wont wear a condom then becomes the new partner who doesnt get to have sex with you. then he becomes the ex and goes back to wife!!!! stop falling for his crap!

Condom or not, do not sleep with a married man and do not believe his line of bullshit about how awful his wife is. He just wants a bit on the side.

What do you want from this post?

If he's married then stop.

If he's not married and free to have sex with you but won't wear a condom then bin him off. He's not amazing or whatever other nonsense you said about him if he won't listen to you and respect your perfectly normal and vital request.

Because it's fun.

Self-esteem is for everybody.

condoms are mandatory. He should be dumped the second he even suggests going without.

and no married men.

He’s married and his refusal sounds like he doesn't want to risk his wife discovering a receipt/ half used pack of condoms.

I know, sadly from experience, men intent on an affair are (delete as appropriate) not having sex with their wives/ separated but live together/ remaining together for the children/ more like friends than lovers etc… with a wife unaware of any of those scenarios.

Learn to value and respect yourself more you deserve better than to be the OW and if he truly cared and respected you he wouldn’t be making you the OW.

Don't be daft, OP.

He's not your "partner", he's someone else's husband.

Not that this is true anyway...

My feeling is, the OP meant to say he had been married a long time and is now not, thats what I read - so a normal new relationship.

Condoms can be rubbish for many blokes, myself included. I would always prefer not to wear one but will always wear one if thats what the other person wants. I guess since my divorce, 2 out of 5 wanted me to wear one, so not ideal but not a deal breaker either.

Getting a rampant rabbit will definitely be a lot more sensible than getting gonorrhoea, HIV, chlamydia, herpes, hepatitis C and everything he is going to put the OP at risk of.

I'm pretty certain that nothing says love like giving some daft bint the Clap. Or taking it home to the wife and mother of his children from a hookup who thinks that man feelings come about sexual health.

It's your body and your sexual health.
If you want to risk an sti that's your choice.

It wouldn't be a choice I'd make.

I heard plenty of "trust me I'm clean" in my youth.

Did I take their word for it and cast aside the condom cos of lust and trust?

Ha. Ha. Hahaha ha. Ha.

No.

Spoiler alert OP- he’s still having sex with his wife, and he’s not a nice guy if he’s starting an affair with you & refusing to wear condoms 🤣 the bar really is on the floor now isn’t it

Proper caught the feels ....🤣

My goodness you sound unhinged and have so far made terrible decisions according to this post. Oh gosh I wonder what you will do.....