New partner won't wear a condom

[Nofruitscones]

Recently started seeing a lovely man ♥️ Met through a mutual friend and hit it off instantly, despite me never wanting to get involved with a man ever again.
Never thought I'd change my mind but gosh he's totally amazing!

We have met a few times now and it's all been lovely and have discussed progressing our friendship and moving things along... 😉

However... he is not keen to use condoms 🙁 He's been married a long time but says don't have sex and I believe him. I really feel like I want to insist on condoms though but oh my goodness, I have proper caught the feels and WANT him!

What to do MN?

Well at least you know he can read, OP. He's keenly studied the "married man's book of cliches".

I've literally just been in this situation. With a married man. Fortunately we've only been physical once and now it's come to an abrupt end. It is HELL. The guilt, the shame. He and his wife deffo do have sex and he wants his cake and eating it. TRUST ME. I learned th hard way. Runnnnnn away.

Probably the same bloke.

He’s married? Doesn’t sleep with his wife (lol)? Wont use condoms? What to do.. oh what a pickle! Run love, run like the wind in the opposite direction and resolve not to fall for BS next time!

Haha could well be! I would not be at all surprised!! Ahh, hindsight is a wonderful thing.

How trashy.

He's not your "partner", he's somebody else's husband.

Not that you have the integrity or intelligence to compute that, mind.

Shocking lack of self-awareness.

Maybe Op forgot to say he's separated but hasn't sorted out the divorce yet.
I was once with a man who had trouble putting them on (older guy) he said 'I don't get on with condoms you should go on the pill'
I kicked the dirty bastard to the kerb,

You have met a cheating cunt who wants to fuck you without a condom.

FFS get rid of the shit bag.

Maybe blame the trolls and not the hunters?

How old is the OP??

Lovely man
married already
wont wear condoms

I won’t say ‘What a catch’ but I will ask - what will you catch?!!!

If I hear 'I won't wear a condom' I think:

You don't care about my health
You don't care if I get pregnant
Your enjoyment of sex is more important than my sexual health
Your enjoyment of sex is more important than my right to not get pregnant

And if he's still married then absolutely do not have sex with this man!!

What do you do?

Get some self respect instead of being someone’s bit on the side spunk bucket.

OP, I wonder if you mean "Ex-partner wouldn't wear a condom" because this would otherwise indicate a self-harming level of concern/risk-taking for your own health and wellbeing.

Hilarious post. Surely it can't be real. Only one type or response expected surely?!

Exactly. Sounds like he just wants a bit of hassle free bareback wank bag bit on the side

1. Stop calling him your 'partner'. He's not
2. Stop sleeping with a married man
3. Stop sleeping with someone so selfish
4. Come up with a more believable scenario

Or if there's the tiniest chance this is true, start getting the nursery ready

Exactly this. And to add, even if it's true, so what? Say they are in a rough stage and don't have sex. Why does that give the man permission to sleep around? Pathetic behaviour, some of these men.

Amazing men don’t shag about on their wives and refuse to wear a condom. Where’s your self respect.

Awaits the deletion message... speed up MNHQ, blood pressures are rising reading this...

So you only realised that fucking a married man wasn’t a good idea AFTER the event?

Blimey, where to start!

It’s like an open goal and all of MN is poised on the penalty spot .

married, liar, safe sex, abusive, love bombing,deluded, previous abusive relationship (?). What to go for first?

My God your seeing a married man who says "there's no sex" and you believe him??? He's still with the wife???

Run for the hills in a few years you will be the wife fgs