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New partner won't wear a condom

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Nofruitscones · 09/07/2024 14:44

Recently started seeing a lovely man ♥️ Met through a mutual friend and hit it off instantly, despite me never wanting to get involved with a man ever again.
Never thought I'd change my mind but gosh he's totally amazing!

We have met a few times now and it's all been lovely and have discussed progressing our friendship and moving things along... 😉

However... he is not keen to use condoms 🙁 He's been married a long time but says don't have sex and I believe him. I really feel like I want to insist on condoms though but oh my goodness, I have proper caught the feels and WANT him!

What to do MN?

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HateMyselfToo · 09/07/2024 15:24

Not sure why I'm even bothering place marking, this thread will be gone by the time I've done the school run!

duc748 · 09/07/2024 15:24

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AquaFurball · 09/07/2024 15:25

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🤣🤣🤣

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/07/2024 15:25

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Not very creative, and no one's fantasy?

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 09/07/2024 15:26

I think he sounds great, definitely worth the risk.

Also lol at 'partner'.

EerieSilence · 09/07/2024 15:26

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Ellie56 · 09/07/2024 15:26

Yeah right.

But just on the remote chance this is true, I can assure you he is most definitely not a lovely man.

Lovely men don't cheat on their wives.

Lovely men don't refuse to wear condoms when a new partner asks them to.

cupcaske123 · 09/07/2024 15:26

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Get in line, I've got some magic beans.

Merryoldgoat · 09/07/2024 15:27

sure.

TheDogsAreInThePool · 09/07/2024 15:27

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I think OP already has one, but yes, he might be interested in a second home. 😅

KreedKafer · 09/07/2024 15:27

Christ on a bike, you cannot be for real. Nobody is this naive, surely?

TheFormidableMrsC · 09/07/2024 15:28

WTF? He's not a "new partner" if he's somebody else's husband. This has to be a joke.

Pumpkindoodles · 09/07/2024 15:28

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CremeFresh · 09/07/2024 15:28

Where's the op gone ? Hopefully to buy some condoms maybe?

RainbowZebraWarrior · 09/07/2024 15:28

I stopped reading after the title clashed with the opening line. (Including heart emoji)

Gape · 09/07/2024 15:29

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Chocolately · 09/07/2024 15:29

Give your head a massive wobble.
And then wobble it some more, you nutter.

AdoraBell · 09/07/2024 15:30

Firstly is he still married? If so he’s not a lovely/wonderful man because he is cheating and betraying with wife.

Secindly if he refuses to use a condom he won’t have sex. That’s what I advised my DDs and they’ve stuck to it through Uni.

Begsthequestion · 09/07/2024 15:30

Lol no one is actually this trampy.

Get a hobby.

Normallynumb · 09/07/2024 15:30

Find someone else and get a life

SecretBirthday · 09/07/2024 15:31

Most desperate woman in the world…is that you typing? Are you in the room with us now?

PossumintheHouse · 09/07/2024 15:31

Come on OP, come baaaack... we're waiting on the drip feed update, where you tell us he has confided in you that he has herpes, but he isn't having an outbreak, so it's all OK. And he loves you and has never cheated on his wife with anyone else, you're the first. So it's all OK, right?

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jannier · 09/07/2024 16:06

Ask to meet his wife and see if it's over .......bet you can't she's ill, away, mentally unstable blah blah.....don't touch what's not yours.

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