New partner won't wear a condom

[Nofruitscones]

Recently started seeing a lovely man ♥️ Met through a mutual friend and hit it off instantly, despite me never wanting to get involved with a man ever again.
Never thought I'd change my mind but gosh he's totally amazing!

We have met a few times now and it's all been lovely and have discussed progressing our friendship and moving things along... 😉

However... he is not keen to use condoms 🙁 He's been married a long time but says don't have sex and I believe him. I really feel like I want to insist on condoms though but oh my goodness, I have proper caught the feels and WANT him!

What to do MN?

"he's totally amazing"

I agree it's amazing that you are putting up with his utter bullshit.

Every married man having an affair tells the Other Woman that he and the missus no longer have sex because they don't want to look greedy, and because they think it "justifies" them seeling sex elsewhere.

How old are you, OP? You are incredibly naive about men.

You only need to look up the stats on stis to know that there are far too many people who dont think clearly.

That's not what the OP said at all. She said she believe him when he says he and his wife don't have sex.

As for preferring not to wear one, do you think contraception is only the woman's job then? Or don't you care about taking control of your fertility.

I'm on t'edge of me seat here...

How would that help OP?

If he won't use condoms I'm not convinced he's a lovely man.

Yes.

It's where they keep their pants.

I think you should go for it. He sounds like a real catch

(catch what exactly... could be anyone's guess!)

He’s a walking STI Petri dish 🧫.
No condom wearing?

Stuff that.
What a selfish man.

Aaaand he doesn’t have sex with his wife?!

( Not that old cliché!) 😂

Go for it OP, what could possibly go wrong.

She probably doesn't understand him.

And he's staying for the children.

Condoms can be rubbish for many blokes, myself included. I would always prefer not to wear one but will always wear one if thats what the other person wants. I guess since my divorce, 2 out of 5 wanted me to wear one, so not ideal but not a deal breaker either.

Condom-free sex feels better to everyone. But they don't feel as bad as an STI.

(Yes, I know some can be asymptomatic, but that's not guaranteed.)

Do you really even have to ask...!😮‍💨

You've caught the feels and will soon catch all manner of other things. Good luck with that...

A “Rabbit” in this instance is a popular vibrating sex toy.
Not a mammal .

I read - He's been married a long time but says don't have sex and I believe him as "he had been married a long time but says he doesn't have sex" meaning he is not sleeping with anyone at the moment. No idea if my version is correct, just the way it read to me.

And no, it's a joint decision with every partner I have had, some have been on coil, pill, nothing... so when the time comes we discuss these things. Like I said, if asked/told to wear one I will, no argument.

That was my attempt at a very bad joke, seeing as the OP dilemma cannot be serious.

No glove, no love.

The whole no condom situ is a massive red flag. I don't know if you're fertile but hpv is a massive concern.

Please do not have a relationship with a married man - they always say these things about their marriage and he sounds like a total s

@Nofruitscones “What to do MN?”

Mmm. Yeah. Dunno really. That’s quite the dilemma isn’t it?

What?? He's still with his wife? You are a mug

He doesn't have sex with his wife.

Okay then.

Is the wife part not putting you off a bit?

"However... he is not keen to use condoms 🙁 He's been married a long time but says don't have sex and I believe him. I really feel like I want to insist on condoms though but oh my goodness, I have proper caught the feels and WANT him!

What to do MN?"

@Nofruitscones

What to do?! I'd probably start by getting some self respect, a sense of morality and probably a grip.