Quick dating advice!

[pubertyalloveragain]

So he organises (enthusiastically) a third date for tomorrow but doesn't get in touch all week?

What to do?

Thanks :)

Either nothing or something extremely short.

Yep, remember why you started this thread. I think he’s def not relationship material, so depends if you want a quick shag. But I don’t think he deserves that frankly. The “bit shit, no thanks” message - then block and delete. Next!

Well done for calling him out. Silence doesn’t hurt them at that point, they just think they’ve got away with it. It’ll hit him now though

It is an immature game. You clearly care and you're invested. That's your choice of course but it's a total waste and t your time and energy and it will not have him suddenly going ' oh my god! This is the one for me!' It'll just have him ghosting you even more

I'll bow out now as I'm repeating myself and leave you to it

Yeah I got a tiny bit invested in a guy, hence agreeing a third date. Shock horror.

It’s in no way a game to try and win him over! It’s an “excuse me, WTF are you playing at?! Erm, no”

Why should women just not respond to bad behaviour?! It just makes it easier for them to do it.

But OP, don’t back down. He’ll def do it again

No I don't wanna shag a spineless wanker.

😂 maybe that should be your response

Just block him, delete messages, his number. And move on. Silence is a message as well.

Don't text the 'it's a bit grim...' thing..

If you want to respond (to draw a line and not leave it dangling so more messages may arrive. Go with something nice and pithy like 'nope. No thanks'

It's withering but not explain-ey

Tell him that, then block his sorry arse.

Nothing cuts more than guys being told you're not really into them

Just message saying 'think we'll leave it there, not really feeling the chemistry anyway' or something along those lines

Yes but OP is clearly interested, after chasing him when she was ghosted

Done, no longer interested. Thanks for all the input everyone :)

Hang on, I am not a bunny boiler expecting a text every day nor do I want to be ghosted. It's a spectrum, it's shitty dating and texting nowadays. I am learning.

Which response did you go for in the end?

Just said - I'll leave it, I have the evening free and will make other plans.

Dignified. Left him on the shelf where he belongs.

Spot on.

Thank you :)

I really don't see that as immature. Nor hypocritical which I would be if I simply ghosted him back.

Good on you OP! More women should speak up and flip the script when being edged out or ghosted. It’ll help you move on quickly too rather than ruminate. Fingers crossed for the next one

Sorry to be harsh, but you've basically told him you kept your diary free until tonight, just in case he gets in touch. Hopefully you've blocked him now!

I think your reply is fine. I would leave it at that now.

Did he reply OP?

Yes he did.

He wrote back -

What???

I thought you weren't interested. I don't understand one minute you're close and then I feel you distance yourself.

Glad I got in touch and didn't ghost.

Classic texting misscommunications