Quick dating advice!

[pubertyalloveragain]

So he organises (enthusiastically) a third date for tomorrow but doesn't get in touch all week?

What to do?

Don't worry she'll be old news too. It's clearly what he does. Bullet dodged.

Yep. Last texts were of video of gig he was at over weekend and a text that he really wants to see me etc 🤮

Annoying thing is that he was an interesting guy.

Join your local "are we dating the same guy" and put him on there - it might be enlightening! You can put a photo on, first name and broad location.

You're too good for someone like this, just remember that!

The going to meet family for three weeks was probably a lie. He was probably just using it to see how available/ desperate you were. A lot will set the bar really low in the early days like this to manage your expectations ( ie keep them low), then keep moving the bar lower until they find someone that’s a real
doormat, shag them and move on.
Did he text much in the three weeks?

I just really wanna write a smart arse text in the morning.

Message him and cancel the date - say you met someone else while he was away!

He did actually, not loads but seemed genuine. Even jokingly said why couldn't I fly over. Have not been all over him with messages.

It's just so f'in spineless.

:(

I’d put him on the spot and do a pisstake “where are we meeting tomorrow? Can’t wait, you must have been working hard all week on coming up with something incredible, hence radio silence”

I ALWAYS call them out. They’re not getting away with me fading away like a meek milkmaid. They typically claim bad mental health or some such

What's 'billio'? Seriously i don't think you've got anything to worry about.

That is exactly when I mean!

I am not a church mouse. You just wanna put them on the spot. Of course he could be a total tunt and block me as a response but I don't wanna have a guy oh that was easy.

Billio - a hell of a lot

So you just hang around and wait for a text like an idiot? Or assume given he is permanently on WhatsApp that he's saving up all the magic for tomorrow? Or run the risk of making a tit of yourself?!

I like this.

Its cool.

Its cool.

After 2 dates?? Not saying it's good manners not to cancel but he's allowed to lose interest in someone he's met twice without being posted online.

Better to message if you want to and take the response on the chin.

@pubertyalloveragain hope you do it and feeedback what he says. Then you can go overboard in a psycho-drama “how could you DO this to me?!”

Hopefully make him think twice before pulling this stunt again.

Really believe women pretending they don’t care and being silent perpetuates this shit behaviour.

You're quite right.

Thank you xx

So here's the draft -

Hey, still on to meet tomorrow?

Can’t wait, you must have been working so hard all week on coming up with something incredible, hence the radio silence 😂

He actually wanted to come to stay in my house last week... 🤢

@pubertyalloveragain 😂

I'll do it and I'll report back :)

Please support me as I'm not completely hard skinned.

Good luck

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