Long term Friend has sent me a D**k Pic!

[Menopausalgoddess]

Hi guys, would appreciate your input. I had a male friend (51) whom I’ve been very close with for many years send me a completely unsolicited D pic. I woke up to it Sunday morning via WhatsApp. He’d sent it around 4am with a comment that said ‘you’re so wrong…but so right!’ EWWW! This friend does have substance abuse issues but I still don’t see that as an excuse. I haven’t replied and from my side the friendship is over. I would never feel safe around him again. I feel sickened and violated. We have mutual friends who will at some point realise I am no longer around as we generally meet at this creepoid’s house. Would you tell them the truth if they ask questions regarding my absence? I’m aware that unsolicited D pics are prevalent from online strangers these days unfortunately but has anyone received one from a long-standing male friend? How did you respond? What was the outcome? TIA

I would not reply to that text. Don't get involved if he tries to reply back with an explanation, or saying it was sent by mistake, etc. Error or not, it just makes matters complicated and it is totally not acceptable.

You may have many mutual friends in between so there will be a time or party where you both will be in the same room. Just a quick hello but not getting involved in small talk would be my advice.

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How have you dealt with it @Menopausalgoddess have you replied/ignored/blocked?

I have archived the chat but not blocked as I was curious to see if he would respond. I have no intention of replying but after such a long friendship, I just wanted to know I suppose. He would normally have contacted me by now, in terms of our typical friendship communication style but…nothing. He’s not deleted anything, which I find increasingly bizarre.

I have spoken with his brother, whom I had a long relationship with (this is how I know him) many years ago but we’re still friends. They’re not particularly close and unfortunately he was not that shocked when I told him. He was outraged by it but said his brother’s head has never been in the best of places and with the substance abuse it’s just getting worse. He told me to take this opportunity to get far far away from him.

Good advice from the brother...listen to it OP

It's not weird that he's not deleted it. He might be thinking, "I sent, she's seen it, what is the point in deleting it?"

I just find it odd that he has not gotten the response he was after, he was a good friend, you’d think he’d feel remorseful or embarrassed or something. But no he’s just left it hanging there…well it wasn’t ‘hanging’ but you get my drift!

Gross. He's one pf those mysoginistic pricks that thinks if a woman has any 'fun', she's a whore. And that if she sleeps with one guy, she will be open to sleeping with him too. It's so grim. Delete and block.

If its WhatsApp you can't delete for the other person after a certain time, only for you.

So he won't be able to delete even if he wanted to

Is it possible that he's not aware he sent it? If he was off his head, he might not recall sending it and may not have opened the chat since...

Not sure if this has been mentioned, I think your approach is good, you don't owe him discretion after exposing himself to you, but just to say don't forward or share or even show anyone the photo as proof, this can be criminal in itself (not sure about just showing rather than sharing but I would still say it took away moral high ground).

I Never knew that, thanks.

Completely agree. I’m taking this stance. I think it could be classed as revenge porn. I wouldn’t want to distribute regardless. Thanks for your post.

I have thought about this possibility but regardless I don’t want to be around him.

Right I’ve decided to just get on and block him. I need to move on and not think about this anymore, still giving me major ick! Thanks for all your comments and help ladies! Xx

No, don't blame you. He's a prat for messing up a friendship irrespective of substance abuse.