He blocked and ghosted me 😭😭😭

[Pizzapie82]

I haven’t seen my little girl’s dad since I was 13 weeks pregnant. He wasn’t happy I was pregnant and said that he wanted me to have an abortion. He said that if I didn’t he would never be able to trust me and wouldn’t see me or the child. He blamed me for getting pregnant and accused me of tricking him. Erm, no-it happened the one time we had sex without condoms. Think he needed to take a biology lesson.

Anyway, I didn’t contact him since then but noticed about a month before I have birth that he had blocked me on Facebook and messenger. I thought this was so unnecessary considering I hadn’t contacted him even once since I had last seen him so not like I was hounding him or anything.

My LG is now 7 weeks old and I thought that for her sake I would message him on WhatsApp as noticed he was still available on there. I thought that he might have decided not to block me on there just in case. I sent a very civil message letting him know I had given birth to a beautiful baby girl. I said that I would leave it up to him if he wanted to be involved or not. I didn’t receive a reply and his profile picture disappeared. The bastard has blocked me without so much as the courtesy of a response. I can’t believe someone can be like that. We were only together a matter of weeks when I got pregnant and I certainly wasn’t expecting any sort of ongoing romantic relationship and understood why he wasn’t happy. However, he gave me no indication that he was the type of person to ghost someone. I’m just gutted for my LG who clearly will have no chance of having a relationship with her father. 😓😭😭

How can someone do that sort of thing and then just get on with their day without a second thought? I just don’t understand it.

It's fascinating (in a horrible car crash type way) that some men are backing each other up, both openly seeing supporting the child they are 50% responsible for creating as 'punishment'.

Zero acceptance that they created 50% of an actual living human, who will need (and deserves) food and clothing and books and toys and a habitable home.

You're not being asked to provide any time, love, entertainment, midnight get ups, the washing, the singing, the discipline, the lessons, the guidance, not one moment of the actual toil or emotional load. Just cash.

But yeah, 12% of your wages for the human you created is you being 'punished' when - tiny violin - you only wanted fun sex, not procreating sex...

Because buckle up for a mind-blowing fact boys - ALL sex between fertile adults has the potential to end in procreation. Every single time. You're always playing the odds & if you don't use.protection you're an idiot for opining that it's not your fault.

I honestly despair.

Fairly sure it takes two people to get a woman pregnant so not sure why the onus is all on the OP.
Also I’m not clear what she’s meant to have sorted. He told her he didn’t want to be involved AFTER she told him she was pregnant. Are you saying she should have had a conversation with him BEFORE she accidentally fell pregnant about how he’d respond IF she accidentally fell pregnant? I mean, yes, that would have great, but a bit late to suggest it now…

Umm the guy didnt play helpless victim he made his view clear. He didnt want the kid he isnt claiming to be a victim he is saying he doesn't want the kid and even if he was whats with the victim shaming.

I know it's hypocritical for the woman in this to say she's the victim when the morning after pill would have had little to know real effect.

Maybe a bit of nausea some cramps but thats the price you pay to avoid having a child if she wanted the kid then its wrong to deny him his right to refusal then expect him to pay.

Do you have kids yourself?

Im sorry this is a bit ridiculous what if the dad died and left them with nothing would this be father shaming the child will still need the same level of support if the dad lived or not. And she chose to have the kid.

Though honestly given the about of man shaming on this platform I would say I hope he pushes for 50% custody because you know what he could end up being the best dad ever at least he knows what he wants from life. Where as the OP seems like she deceived the fella.

Are you serious?!? The “victim” here is the child!

It’s absolutely vile.

Please women be careful who you choose to procreate with so your child isn’t saddled with some useless sperm donor .

Same goes for men really, be careful who you procreate with too and come on, both sex sexes - use protection! Grow the heck up!

ps. Yes I know accidents happens but in most cases including this one no doubt, a condom hasn’t been used!

Honestly at this age believe me you can hardly imagine it is even a possibility. We use no condom with my partner. I am 45 he is 49. We use the pull out method. Honestly, the chances are super low. In the unlikely event that the miracle would happen we would probably keep the baby but come on…