Partner confessed he’s attracted to younger girls

[HappyOak]

Hi there…
Totally new on here and this is a very difficult one to post… Been with my partner for 8 months,was previously married for 30 years,two grown up children and awaiting divorce.
Super happy in my relationship until recently. I have lung nodules which were discovered recently on a chest scan .. had to have them monitored as there’s a chance they could be cancer .Should find out this week either way so DP took me away for the weekend to try and take my mind off what is a very fraught time .
Had a bit of a row over him checking out young girls in shorts and the next minute he told me he was attracted to young teenagers …when I asked how young he replied 13/14 …Ive never felt more repulsed in my life, I lay on the floor in utter shock and couldn’t speak for what seemed like an eternity …
He also told me he thinks of other girls when we are having sex if he can’t cum .. I’m absolutely broken and cannot function .. this was supposed to be a nice break to take me away from my pending test results and I discover my partner is a pervert .. I was in a loveless sexless marriage for so long and thought I’d hit the jackpot with this guy … he was loving,attentive,warm and generous but I didn’t know him at all .I’ve told him to seek help and that we are over but I’m broken and shocked and just not functioning right now..please help!

I'd LTB without a second thought.

Oh OP I'm so sorry that you have had such a huge shock, but you have definitely done the right thing in telling him it's over. Hope everything goes well with your test results.

Sorry you're going through this, and well done for getting rid of him, but I don't think dumping him is enough. You need to report what he told you. I doubt this is him just thinking about younger girls. If I were the police I would want to look on his computer.

Why?? Why has this been reported ?

You need to report it to the police. I'm sorry you have been through this.

What a disgusting vile man, very concerning! Well done OP for walking away i would definitely report it further. Rotten man.

I hope your test results come back nothing to worry about and all is well 💖 I hope you're okay OP, never contact that creep again!

You need to report to the police OP. I'm so sorry.

Report him to the police

Ignore the reported comment, some people can’t help themselves.

You will be better off without him, focus on yourself and your health. Although it’s a nasty shock for you, thank goodness he revealed what he really is before you got deeper into the relationship. You’re much better off without him.

I have told him to get help and have given him the details for Stop it Now, he doesn’t have a computer. I’m sorry you think this is BS… I can assure you it isn’t … I’m still in shock and finding it all too difficult to process …

Genuine question: What will the police do with his admittance of these thoughts and attractions?

The OP is struggling at the moment with her health and mental health and needs time to process what he’s told her.

Speak to your GP and ask them to refer you to counselling. Or pay for some private therapy if you can afford it.
Agree with others, you should call the non emergency police number and report what he has told you.

Why the fuck haven't you ended your relationship?;is this a wind up?

Not a chance in hell I wouldn’t report him to the police.

I have ended it! Did you read my post???

*a paedophile has admitted this to you and your response is to break it off and tell him to get help and start a mumsnet thread

rather than…. go to the police*

Finding them attractive isn't in and of itself illegal.
Acting on it or possessing images is

He may or may not already be on the police's radar. If he's not, they'll log it and perhaps look into his internet communications and if he has access to children.

The op does say towards end of the post that it’s over.

@Duckingella she has

please read before commenting

@SoItGoes221

thank you, makes sense and seems like the right thing to do

Next you'll be telling us he doesn't have a phone.

Report him already.

But op doesn’t know that he doesn’t have images for example. Reporting to the police is a must.