Who performs oral sex on their partner? Is it unusual to never do it?

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How many couples are there out there who do oral sex?

Does your male partner goes down on you?

Do you perform oral sex on them?

My husband and I have never done it. I was wondering if we are unusual not to.

Do most couples do it?

When I see a sex scene in a film, the man often goes down on the woman first. Does this represent sex in most relationships?

I just have no idea, because I don't ask my friends about this.

Yuck! No - never have and never will.

This 100%

As long as your happy it doesn't matter.

Myself and dh barely give oral its certainly not regular tbh it doesn't bother us

News article?

Without context, I would hope that it was in response to TV/film references or teenage 'theories' that suggest that all women are 'up for it' all the time.
Alternatively, I remember a schoolfriend's brother being hauled in for hours of questioning about a terrible crime - he didn't go out much for years afterward, he wasn't the culprit and having remembered it recently, I see that the records are now sealed until 2074.

Removing my post, not convinced this isn't a Daily Mail "journalist" doing their usual lazy screen scraping or some weirdo looking for wanking material (maybe they aren't exclusive).

I've never been bothered about receiving before as I couldn't relax and I don't think previous partners were particularly skilled if I'm honest. ExDH hated doing it anyway so it just didn't feature. But dp is very, very good at it so actually enjoy it with him.
I've never minded giving and think I'm quite good. It's a real turn on for me to give my partner pleasure.
If I had to put a figure on it I'd say dp and I do oral of some sort about half the time, with about a third of those occasions being 69.
But I can climax from piv though so it's not a deal breaker in a relationship for me.

Woah too much information.

For me it's a slow steady motion. If the rhythm changes suddenly then I need to build it up again. Oh, and I can only orgasm PIV in missionary position.

I’m sure you can sit yourself down and have a glass of water to recover.

Sex is part of an adult relationship. This the relationship board and adults are capable of discussing it with maturity and interest.

Edit as now also have suspicions.

I didn’t realise how many women didn’t climax through PIV until recently, for me it’s easier than through foreplay but I can do both.

I hate receiving it - neutral on performing it. Tbh I probably do it mostly in situations where I can’t be bothered to do the full act. Or if I’ve just showered etc.

It is dp’s favourite thing so he thinks I’m actually pushing the boat out when I do it - reality is I’m just wanting something quick.

DH begs to do it with me, but it freaks me out too much. Orgasms from it are meh, so I', not that bothered. I do it for him if I have to, but it's not the most pleasant,, especially when he's all flacid and I've got to try and get him hard.

Yes most relationships oral sex has been a normal part of sex. Last guy I was with always gave it with little expectation of return, he was the most selfless lover I’ve had for sure. Many men hate giving it, but expect it.

This thread has been an eye opener.

I'm amazed that so many dislike oral sex, especially receiving.

I'm even more amazed at some of the prudish comments and the worry that someone is wanking over a thread with zero detail of the act itself, or editing their post in case the OP is a journalist! 🤣

No. It’s disgusting. I fail to see how anyone can do this without feeling like they are going to vomit with a mouthful of cum. Gross.

For me foreplay is just as important and pleasurable as sex. In terms of a proper BJ we won't do that just before sex for obvious reasons.

Definitely a very big part of our sex life. Both in the mix with penetrative sex and as a stand alone event. We are both big givers. I very rarely orgasm from penetration alone so oral and hand play are a big part of my pleasure. I wouldn't be satisfied with penetration alone as much as I do enjoy it.

Do you do other foreplay to get you ready for penetration or does he just go straight in every time?

That’s completely put me off my sausage casserole!

I didn’t give oral sex for years, not sure why. Laziness and my ocd in overdrive I think. Influenced by a friend who proclaimed it gross to do that when you kiss your kids with the same mouth.

however I actually enjoy giving oral so I absolutely do. He loves it and I want to make him happy. He also gives me oral but not as much because i don’t like it that much.

We do it regularly, it’s an important part of initiating sex and foreplay for us.

I’d say not unusual to never do it if you don’t enjoy it but very unusual to have never done it. Perhaps it’s time to explore more than you currently are?

It’s not to everyone’s taste (excuse the pun!) but yes, my husband does give me oral sex and I always give it back. Not because I have too, but because I really do enjoy it.

no one should ever feel like they have to do something they don’t want. It doesn’t make you or anyone not normal either.

Not casual partners (I worry about STIs) but definitely for longer term ones where we've both been tested

I give but don't receive. I really worry about smelling and so can't relax