Sick with nerves about first date tomorrow ..

[doodledandies]

Anxious all day long today.
Would prefer to cancel but I do like what I see and hear so far . It's raining. We're meeting in the morning for breakfast.
What do I even wear ?
I can't cancel now as he's travelling to meet .Help !?

Are you always this anxious about meeting new people OP?

Whats playing on your mind?

Wear something you feel good in.

Remember a first date is just an opportunity to see if you like him enough to even consider a second date.

At worst it was a breakfast out, nothing lost there

Good luck!

Where is he travelling from?

If he is already travelling for a date tomorrow morning then maybe you feel more pressured into it going well? Try not to think about it in that way.

Maybe it is that he is making such an effort to travel . Plus I'm out of this game for twenty years and it's all brand new . He's going outbid his way by two and a half hours . I am ready to date but the nerves are bad today and I'm very chatty normally .

Breakfast dates? Is this a thing?

I couldn't do that, OP, unless my date was happy with being confronted with a woman who was completely non-verbal until she'd had quite a lot of caffeine and probably hadn't brushed her hair.

Can you push it back till some more civiised time of day? Especially if he's travelling hours!

I hope it goes well OP. Just enjoy ut. If u have built up a rapport before meeting just see the face to face as an extension of this. If u not atrracted to each other no big deal, u can still have a nice breakfast and good chat. Keep us posted.

If he's that far away that he's travelling at 3pm for a date the next day what's the point? Surly it's just going to be an utter pain in the arse to meet up?

Good grief - breakfast? Not even brunch?

I’d be in a huge, ancient sweater and absolutely no make up. What kind of masochists are you?

How do you know his travel plans, @SmallGreens?

Just wear something you have that you like wearing.
Breakfast is good as with your mouthful you can't chat all the time...
Just go. Your not marrying the guy.

Easy to say but try and relax, I can get anxious over things, so just keep putting things into perspective. It is just a meet up, if you don't want to see him again, you don't have to. Every time you feel yourself getting nervous and anxious, return to a better perspective, the more you do it, the easier it gets. Wear something comfortable that you feel good in. Good luck!

It says she can't cancel as he travelling to meet.

I’m guessing you’re meeting around 10 in the morning and having coffee and something to eat? If so, that sounds nice - no real pressure, if it goes well you’ve got more of the day to sit and chat or go for a walk somewhere, and if the conversation dries up a bit then you can excuse yourself and go shopping or meet a friend. Maybe put something in place for afterwards so you’re not hyper focused on the date?

You’re bound to feel nervous, but it’s only a coffee! My go-to outfit is wide legged slouchy trousers,, a fitted t shirt or a short stripy jumper, and a trench coat or denim jacket. Trainers, nice bag, bit of jewellery. It’s his choice to travel that distance, no-one is forcing him, and he wouldn’t do it if he didn’t want to. Just remember you don’t owe him anything in return!

Good luck, I hope you have a good time 😊

OP, try not to worry, and keep things in perspective. No need to dress up for breakfast, just wear something you like and feel nice in. Look on it as date zero rather than a first date and that you are just seeing if the two of you hit it off. If theres no spark you can still enjoy breakfast together and have a bit of a chat. Good luck, you will be fine.

And vice-versa

I felt like this on my first couple of dates after i separated from my ex. It was my first date in 22 years!

It went OK, but for all the nerves and everything, I just didn't like him that much in person. Remember to think about what you want, instead of just worrying if he likes you.

Breakfast dates should definitely be more of a thing! Sounds great to me 😁

Plus I'm out of this game for twenty years and it's all brand new

Saying you've been out of the game for 20 years implies that you were once in that game, which means it is not brand new.

Hope it went well OP 😊

How did it go @doodledandies? What did you have to eat?

Hello. It went really well! I had coffee and a croissant ! We were both a bit awkward and hesitant but it turned into a lovely chatty couple of hours . Very compatible and was very attracted to him. We thanked each other for a great morning and he said he hoped that he'd see more of me . I said likewise .
Haven't heard anything since ..
What happens next ?
He travelled to me and treated me to breakfast despite my protestations. I would have liked to nah e treated him in view of him travelling so far and so early to my neck of the woods.
A gentleman but no kiss on the cheek, nothing affectionate at the end .
Is this normal ?

Maybe next time, if there is a next time bring it up.

Some men are shy too and he might not know if it was okay to make the first move? Or maybe he thought not have wanted to?

That’s great you had a good time! I think if you haven’t heard from him by tomorrow night then I’d let it go - it sounds like you had a nice return to the dating scene regardless. The no kiss isn’t the end of the world - he may not have not whether you wanted it or not and rightly didn’t go for it.

Do I message him to thank him ?