My friend just screenshot a photo of my boyfriend on a dating site

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Well well well what an absolute c*t! I hate that word but yep what a c*t!!
In a relationship with a man for 11 months, had the exclusive chat. See each other regularly, relationship seemed good. My friend has just sent me a screenshot of him on a dating site... so at 1st I tried to look at it as positively as can be ...maybe it's an old profile... but no he likes her profile and he has recently been active.

I am so hurt and gutted but I'm happy to say my anger has taken over!!!! We were meant to see each other for the whole weekend this weekend coming all planned, dinner booked, swimming, walks a lunch, cinema... obviously now im not going... any advice on what I should message, I dont feel he is owed the dignified face to face end it... seriously what an absolute bastard!!!
I don't want to be hysterical in my msg , classy would be good but also let him know what I have been shown!
I'm so glad he has never met this friend!! He has no idea who she is ... utter scumbag

Hes blocked

Onward and upward. Well done.

You’ve got more self control than me OP. I would have needed to see his responses/explanation/excuses so I wouldn’t have blocked him until after that.

Well done! I’m so proud of you! No dithery “Shall I take him back” bullshit. No series of threads about him cheating - again. Boom! Goneskies! You probably feel exhausted and sad, but at no stage have you blamed yourself for this. You haven’t minimised his behaviour or made excuses for it. It is so refreshing to read that you are a woman who deserves better. You will never settle for less.

Op you are brilliant

How is this helpful right now? Go play Poirot somewhere else, the woman has had her heart broken and deserves some peace and support, not people planting doubt in her brain for no reason.

Plus people could just read all the OP's post, instead of posting this inane bullshit.

Well done OP. You’ve been so strong. I hope you can find someone in the future who is cut from a different cloth. His loss, you sound like a classy chick to me!

Absolutely this with fucking bells on! So many posts lately, women asking if they're being unreasonable, staying with utter shitbags who use and abuse them, they need to take a leaf out of your book! You are now like, the poster girl for a woman that won't settle and has her shit together! Bravo! 💐💪

Yeah me too!

I think that the OP has done the better thing, but....oh I would really want to "win" the argument!

Don't forget to block him on every bit of social media. He has no right to know anything more about you, he is 'persona non grata'. He will probably have to put up with awkward questions from his family and friends for a good while. I'd like to think a few would comment on how nice they though you were - really rubbing it in to him😉

There is always a few who love to plant nasty seeds

It's all so fucking disappointing isn't it.

Why are a lot of men such absolute a-holes.

Dry your tears babe and enjoy the company of friends instead of this for a while.

You are one strong lady. As soon as I read you have dinner plans this evening with someone who is interested in you reminded me of Beyonce Irreplacable. This is exactly what you ex is. Enjoy life as you never know what tomorrow is going to bring.

No need to be rude to @MonsteraMama , she was just trying to cover all the possibilities.
Whilst I am sure the OP has full trust in her friend, and is not wrong it seems as she mentioned she will be blocking him too, not everyone has great experience with their girlfriends. And should not be dragged down for even suggesting that people who present themselves as friends may not be friends at all.

Sadly I experienced (more than once) quite disappointing and hurtful actions from ppl I thought were well meaning but were actively trying to sabotage nice things in my life.
This should not bother the OP (or plant any seeds of suspicion) because she now sent him the screenshots (this is why I was also advocating against just ghosting him). He knows. If he was set up (which os tbh quite a stretch, again we are not in a cheap movie) he would already be at her door.
Also even if her friend was a mean jealous crazy b who texted him first and lured him in the conversation - he is still a loser for entertaining that...he had no business being on that site period.

I’ve just read the thread. You sound brilliant op. Well played and I hope this doesn’t hit you too hard once the adrenaline has worn off.

I never understand the "send message and block" thing. It's really strange behaviour because then it leaves no pathway for reply. It always makes more sense to leave people unblocked, and simply don't reply if there is nothing worthwhile to respond to. The only people who are outright blocked by me are scammers.

Hang in there op, it is very difficult to just cut communication when you were emotionally invested. But sometimes has to be done for one's own sanity and peace. Good luck.

thats the point. They don’t want a reply, don’t want to hear their nonsense and want nothing to do w them. I don’t understand your POV

I think it can be a good thing.

If you are ending things with someone who you know is manipulative and a liar, why give them another "in"? They are obviously good at drawing people in and thats why saying "you are dumped" and blocking is good because its a defence against getting drawn in again.

Just look at threads on here where women instinctively know that they are being played and lied to, who are then gas lighted and end up backing down. The OP has made sure that he cant try and charm her and talk her around.

But Mr. Slimeball has shown himself to be a grade A scammer so I think blocking him is absolutely the right course of action.

If you are ending things with someone who you know is manipulative and a liar, why give them another "in"? They are obviously good at drawing people in and thats why saying "you are dumped" and blocking is good because its a defence against getting drawn in again.

By "drawing people in," do you mean OP would initiate another relationship with this man? Why would she do that?

Ask every woman who has stayed with a man who has lied to her.

Well done op

Yes. Well done OP. Hope you have a good and relaxing weekend after all this upheaval.