My friend just screenshot a photo of my boyfriend on a dating site

[Mountaindewstar]

Well well well what an absolute c*t! I hate that word but yep what a c*t!!
In a relationship with a man for 11 months, had the exclusive chat. See each other regularly, relationship seemed good. My friend has just sent me a screenshot of him on a dating site... so at 1st I tried to look at it as positively as can be ...maybe it's an old profile... but no he likes her profile and he has recently been active.

I am so hurt and gutted but I'm happy to say my anger has taken over!!!! We were meant to see each other for the whole weekend this weekend coming all planned, dinner booked, swimming, walks a lunch, cinema... obviously now im not going... any advice on what I should message, I dont feel he is owed the dignified face to face end it... seriously what an absolute bastard!!!
I don't want to be hysterical in my msg , classy would be good but also let him know what I have been shown!
I'm so glad he has never met this friend!! He has no idea who she is ... utter scumbag

I think people are right OP. If he truly doesn’t suspect a thing and you have been what appears to be a couple for almost a year, he may ring the police or contact your family members etc.

I think now I would send the screenshot to him via WhatsApp wait for the blue ticks and then block him so you know he’s seen it but no chance for him to gaslight you and all that business.

I agree with others above. I think just ghosting him will either make him panic and call the police OR at the very least he won’t realise he has done anything wrong. Personally, I would want him to know exactly what he had done and to feel the shame of being caught. But good luck whatever you choose.

I have been worried he would call my family or police so I've just sent the screenshots... he opened them... I could see him typing and I blocked. Was literally one of the hardest things I've ever done. I just know in my heart , it doesn't matter what he was typing I will never eve trust him again. I am in bits. Lots of tears. It's over. Finally.
Thank you to everyone for your support xx

My friend has blocked him too

Well done, I just hope it really was him.

It's ridiculous to ghost him like that, instead of telling him that you know he's a sleaze. He could phone the police, one minute you're on the way to meet him and the next - silence. How do you expect him to get the message that you're done without telling him. Or even hinting at it? FML 😂

Eta Cross posted with you. Glad you've sent the screenshots, you've now got the upper hand. And won't have the police at your door.

Good on you.

I wouldn't pay any attention to the people saying that it may be someone else using his pictures.

You would know from his profile, and the messaging style used to your friend.

Well done! (I must admit I would have read his response as I'm a nosy so-and-so, and would wonder what slimeball excuses he came up with.......)

Edited after seeing updates.

Read the whole thread miss judgemental

Well done, OP! You have handled this amazingly.

Well done OP now try get some sleep and let him be the one up all night.

Please read the whole thread

Wouldn't it be an idea to read the OP's first few posts?

Well done, OP. I know it's not easy, but you stayed true to yourself throughout. I know some posters have given you a rough ride, but you don't deserve it! HE was the one who decided a loyal, faithful GF of 11 months just wasn't enough, HE was the instigator of the heartbreak you now feel: ALL HIM. You hold your head high! 🤗💐

I think you’ve done the right thing. You have been amazing and so strong. A classy exit. Once trust has gone from a relationship, it’s over. There’s nothing to build on. It’ll take some time to get him out of your system but you will get there.

Ah well done! glad you saw that life goes on, sorry this one wasn't who you thought he was. And thank you for updating! (and if you unblock and see his message can you update that too pls 😁)

Well done you've handled it brilliantly and it's exactly what the deceitful b*stard deserves 👏

I know it couldn't have been easy, but you've got strength, guts and self-respect 💐

Onwards and upwards OP

I have and you don't have concrete proof that it was 100% him, only that they used his details.

On the other hand, if it really was him then he's a fucking moron - how did he think he wouldn't be rumbled by a friend of yours or a family member etc?!

For those of you that havent read the whole thread :

• It was 100% him he sent his phone number to my friend to move it on to what's app

*The man I went on a date with is a friend, he knows the whole situation I'm not leading him on at all

• The chicks b4 dicks was a jokey thing my friend and I said... had no real intention of doing it

*I always said I would make him wait a bit and waste his time as he has wasted months of my life... remember I wasted just under 4 hours of his before providing him with clarity

• I have sent the screenshots

• I have blocked

*Its over

Good on you OP, I'm sorry it turned out this way but I'm glad you're shot of the slimeball.

Your friend is a good'un.

Apologies, I didn’t see that he had sent your friend his phone number.

I find it so hard to understand why people behave like that. What a complete lowlife.

Yes I have managed alot, putting my phone on silence helped

I left my friends after a couple of glasses and I didnt think waking up with a hangover would be wise

I am heartbroken really