My friend just screenshot a photo of my boyfriend on a dating site

[Mountaindewstar]

Well well well what an absolute c*t! I hate that word but yep what a c*t!!
In a relationship with a man for 11 months, had the exclusive chat. See each other regularly, relationship seemed good. My friend has just sent me a screenshot of him on a dating site... so at 1st I tried to look at it as positively as can be ...maybe it's an old profile... but no he likes her profile and he has recently been active.

I am so hurt and gutted but I'm happy to say my anger has taken over!!!! We were meant to see each other for the whole weekend this weekend coming all planned, dinner booked, swimming, walks a lunch, cinema... obviously now im not going... any advice on what I should message, I dont feel he is owed the dignified face to face end it... seriously what an absolute bastard!!!
I don't want to be hysterical in my msg , classy would be good but also let him know what I have been shown!
I'm so glad he has never met this friend!! He has no idea who she is ... utter scumbag

For those that have expressed concerns about me going on a date in a potentially vulnerable state, thank you. I am aware I'm not going to be 100% at all tonight, I'm not going to be jumping out of the frying pan into the fire so to speak ... and I know I am probably high as a kite on adrenaline right now & I expect I'll be low tomorrow, especially after the texting and ghosting/blocking boyfriend.
I am really gutted about it all, I thought boyfriend was decent , its heart breaking really all jokes aside I am hurt.
I'm just really in need of a distraction this evening it will only be a coupl of hours food and chat and then off with my sister to my friends. I cant be at home tonight, children are with thier dad, an empty house is not what I want or need tonight.
Tomorrow I'll have to face it, but by then he will be gone.
Thank you so much for all of your kind words and advice , I will update you all later. Also this isnt like a fairytale ... my boyfriend has really hurt me and I need to have sti tests , I dont remember that part in Cinderella 💁‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Sorry you're hurt OP. You will be okay though, I promise.

Yes well it is an odd situation. I dont know , would people be happier to hear I'm sat at home crying and looking at msgs between my boyf and my friend ?
I need to be out tonight, date and friends is good for me right now. I just cant be at home. My emotions are all over the place right now , I'm aware that I'm behaving a little chaotic , it's just the way it is. I'm not perfect, im only human. I'm being quite strong really

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Not to add salt to the wound but the fact that Mr. Slimeball wanted to move things so quickly to WhatsApp with your friend makes me think that it isn't just tentative toe-dipping into online dating for him and he is probably been cheating on you for the 11 months. He has been caught now but I doubt very much it's his first rodeo.

I'm glad you have a nice distraction this evening and you're right to go out for a nice dinner and then have some drinks with your sister. Important to digest it all and have a good bitch and moan and cry if you need it. What an absolute bastard he is and how dare he waste your time and lead you on like this.

Have you decided on what your plan of action is? Are you going to ghost him or send him a goodbye text after you've said you're on the way? I expect your phone is going to blow up with him trying to contact you so have you a strategy in place as to how you're going to deal with that?

I hope you have a lovely evening xx

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WTF?

Waiting for the update with bated breath x

I would ignore him and go out with your friend, then send him a picture of you and your friend on a night out so he knows you know

I’d just send a screenshot then block

I'm so sorry OP, I'd have to do payback, I'd get your friend to arrange a meet up in a bar and I'd make sure to be there and just before he arrives I'd go to the toilet out of sight and once he's made himself comfy I'd make an appearance and then tell him to p*ss off

RTFT

I think I would just sent the screenshot and nothing more, then block him.

I think “I’ve met someone else, he’s everything I dreamed of and the sex is fantastic so it’s best we both go our own way - good luck for the future” or add “you complete loser”

Just say ‘Ending this relationship now as have been told some things about you’. Then block. The wondering who knows what about him will make him really squirm. That’s the least he deserves!

I've read the whole thread and just wanted to add my two cents to the latest update. But firstly I'm so sorry this man has treated you like this. A lucky escapee for sure but it still hurts.

The date with new guy; PLEASE DONT. Whilst it's lovely of him to offer you a distraction and sympathetic ear you know he has feelings for you. You never know he could be your future husband! A bit of a stretch I know but he could be. This is no way to start a potential relationship (which is what he is hoping for). If you two end up together it's not a great story to have as your foundation and, tonight when you are meeting him is just around the time man 1 will be freaking out and blowing up your phone etc. it's drama drama drama and man 2 doesn't deserve that. If it were me I would call him and say you would love to go on a date in say a month or so but want to act with integrity towards him and give him the respect he deserves. Sure you will be cancelling tonight but in years to come you may look back and be thankful you acted rationally and with decency towards him.

Just my two cents (from someone who wishes she had done the right thing more often when she was dating)

This is so horrible. I’m sorry this has happened to you. I think if this happened to me I’d be inclined to send him the screenshot and explain how I feel. He deserves to have that laid on HIS doorstep and you deserve to have this disappointment out of your body. I wouldn’t wait for a response …he’s a liar. I’d let it all out, let it go, block him and move on. 🤗💐🍷 🍫

There’s so much power in silence
wait till last minute
block and ignore!
power move hon
f him

cry rage and heal
good luck 💪💪

The child in me read this and thought you should get your friend to message him and arrange a date, and then you should show up on the date! Imagine him talking his way out of that one.

Sorry this happened to you and good riddance to bad rubbish! I've not read all the messages but looks like you ended it. Your life is already infinitely better without a slimy waste of space like him! Onwards and upwards!

Here's a strategy, after sending text saying "I'm just leaving". Turn your sound and vibration off. Put phone in bottom of handbag, put it all behind you, enjoy the date, and don't look until you get to your mates house 😁

Are you 100 per cent sure your friend isn't just a teensy bit jealous and liked his old profile first? It might be he simply liked hers back out of politeness? Just sayin.. I've had a couple friends in the past who would have been jealous enough of my situation to have pulled a stunt like that.. ( they did quite similar things)

Oh I like you

If you read the OP's updates, you'll see that that is very much NOT the case.