My friend just screenshot a photo of my boyfriend on a dating site

[Mountaindewstar]

Well well well what an absolute c*t! I hate that word but yep what a c*t!!
In a relationship with a man for 11 months, had the exclusive chat. See each other regularly, relationship seemed good. My friend has just sent me a screenshot of him on a dating site... so at 1st I tried to look at it as positively as can be ...maybe it's an old profile... but no he likes her profile and he has recently been active.

I am so hurt and gutted but I'm happy to say my anger has taken over!!!! We were meant to see each other for the whole weekend this weekend coming all planned, dinner booked, swimming, walks a lunch, cinema... obviously now im not going... any advice on what I should message, I dont feel he is owed the dignified face to face end it... seriously what an absolute bastard!!!
I don't want to be hysterical in my msg , classy would be good but also let him know what I have been shown!
I'm so glad he has never met this friend!! He has no idea who she is ... utter scumbag

I would meet him on Friday in a public place. Be honest and tell him that you know.

This way if he says "it's not me" "someone is using my pictures" you could ask for his phone and look through it.

Dint do anything over text. This way he can lie and delete all the proof

Hi yes I did I acted as normal, few msgs throughout the day, a few in the evening. I've acted exactly the same

What a shitbag.

I would send him the screenshot and say:
I operate in a world of honesty, clarity and good will. I prefer my life happy and unproblematic. Unfortunately you don't meet my standards.

Why dont you get in touch with that other guy who asked you out a while back and see if he is keen to meet up? Another really nice way of saying fuck you to your ex by moving swiftly on with your life! Obviously it doesnt need to be a serious date or go anywhere with this other guy but can just be a friendly meet up to go have some fun! Id be tempted to do that in your position.

Lmao best tell my parents who've happily been together ring free for 45 years. Best get my mum to "wake up" before my obviously completely non committal father up and does a runner on her.

OP I agree send a screenshot just before your due to go and say , hope you find what you are looking for.Then block.

This is actually similar to what I will probably send

That's what I would send.

No idea why people are so keen to block though. Wouldn't it be interesting to see his reply? And then have him see that you have read and ignored?

I love @Azandme 's message. But I'd keep my powder dry and not send the screenshot just yet as others have suggested. Chances are he has been messaging others on the app and so won't know exactly who has ratted him out. Will be interesting if he tries to contact your friend again when you dump him and then you'll know exactly the man he is.

More tempted to say hope your dick falls off and all your shits are porcupines...
But yes go with PP.
Knobber

What? And you’re clearly hesitating over ending it. What’s the story here really? The dudes on a dating app. He’s liked on your friend, and you’re texting back like it’s all ok and coming over for the weekend, are you telling him you’re missing him too.?

are you really just going to go over there and hope he stays with you? As you’re clearly behaving like this for a reason, and it’s not some gotcha anymore. It’s clear hesitation.

I’m sorry do you think Barack would be alive if he did this to Michelle? You seem like a nice poster… someone who never had to deal with shit men or deal with men’s obvious inability to commit or be honest. Its not upto her to make him a better man or educate him, if he does get violent, than police shame, journalists hell even post on mumsnet

If being ghosted messed with his head then you have your answer. Ghost him.

I think I’d still be tempted to ask the friend to send him a message on the dating app. Just because when this initial anger dies away, you might doubt yourself especially if he tries to gaslight you.

Of course you don’t need to but I think it would give you complete closure knowing he’s replied to her.

I think the classy, factual approach is absolutely the way to go. Don’t give him the satisfaction of seeing your emotions.

No I'm not hesitantating ending it at all. My emotions have cut off from this worm. I was just letting him think all was ok until I decide what I was going to write or do as in the catfish thing or not, if I had changed the way I was it wouldnt work. However i have decided i cant be bothered with the cat fishing thing , so will send a msg after not turning up for our date on Friday.
Today he can probably sense I am alot quieter than usual and not initiating the conversation

@Sunnyandsilly *hesitating

I have definitely made my mind up there is absolutely no way I can continue any sort of relationship with this man, he makes my skin crawl now. I never want to see his face again

Thank you but he wont gas light me. I am very stubborn when mind been made up and I don't want to hear his excuses or answers. It's done now. It's over. No going back , ever . I'm actually looking forward to freeing up my weekends :)

@TerfTalking ah I hope she's glad she did that and is happy and thriving now away from that sort of man :)
The lies they come out with to try and cover their tracks are embarrassing.
I really wouldn't play any games OP he's lied and he's been caught out , you either tell him straight that you have seen or you don't!
It hurts but he's broken your trust now and revealed who he is

I feel hurt of course but so strong in my decision that I dont care about my things I've left at his place , he can have them , I'm not stepping foot in his place again, makes me shudder thinking about him touching me 🤢

Absolutely yes revealed who he is , no going back as far as I'm concerned. Theres better looking men out there anyway, he always told me everyone around him told him he was punching above his weight with me , including his brother who said it infront of me... he really was , he really truly was, what a loser 🙄😄

I already have 😄 I msg him this afternoon. It's a distraction and he seems lovely, I've been honest about my situation so were just friends atm

Send him this when you’re supposed to be on a date with him.
“Is it possible your ex ghosted you because she found out that you had joined up and been active on a dating site while claiming you were exclusive? I’m sensing a pattern….”

@Mountaindewstar the way you're dealing with this is further proof that he is the one who has truly missed out on! Good on you , he's gonna be kicking himself for this

This is perfect